(Closed) Two maids of honor

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5524 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

yep. i have 2 as well and fi has 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man ๐Ÿ™‚ Having them work together has seemed to worked thus far. Luckily, one is more girly than the other and 1 is more level headed than the other. This works out really well because I can share decor stuff (details) with one.. and emotions with the other. Invite them both to EVERYTHING. Have them both do speeches. have them wear the same stand out dress. Treat them like they are supposed to be treated, like your best friends ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have 2 maids of honor. Both best friends, one from high school and one from college. One is also getting married right before me so I get a matron and a maid of honor.

Anyways, just tell them you’d be honored or excited to have ________ and ________ as your maids of honor and you love them both and so on.

As for speeches, I will let them decide. They can speak together, one after the other or just 1 can speak. I’m not picky and they can work together.

If someone starts to back talk or act upset, nip it in the butt right away. Your wedding and your rules. When it’s their wedding they can do the same.

Does that help?

Post # 5
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have 2 maids of honor as well because I have 2 best friends I couldn’t choose between.  I think it’s totally fine to have more than one!  I figure they can decide if they want to give their own short speeches or work together and share one speech.  I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.

My dilemma is how to pair them up with groomsmen.  My Fiance only has 1 best man but we have equal numbers overall  (I have 2 Maid/Matron of Honor and 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man… He has 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 5 GM).  So it’s not like I can have both Maid/Matron of Honor walk on either side of the Bridesmaid or Best Man because then there would be an extra Groomsmen hanging out all by his lonesome =/

I would recommend thinking those kinds of things through before deciding to save yourself the headache later!!

PS… Not to thread-jack but if anyone has any brainstorms about how to solve my partnering dilemma, I’ll be your best friend forever =)

Post # 6
1869 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have two as well.  I couldn’t choose, so I just asked both to be Maid/Matron of Honor.  I’m sure they’d both like to give a speech, but I guess they can decide that?

Post # 7
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have two as well! We’re having two weddings (international couple) so I built two different bridal parties, since most of the American ones (including my American MOH) won’t be able to make the wedding in Ireland. But the two have become friends online and planned a lot together! I am planning to skype my American Maid/Matron of Honor in for a speech if she can’t make it, and the Irish one will to get to have her speech as well! 

It’s really lucky to have two instead of one!

Post # 8
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Yep, go ahead and let them do two speeches – maybe one is the bouquet holder and the other is the train ‘fluffer’

But I mostly posted to say please make sure you know it’s MaidS of Honor (which you seem to know ๐Ÿ™‚ The wedding I went to this weekend had it listed as Maid of HonorS.

Yeppers, and the bride has a degree in elementary education……

Post # 9
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@jackndiane: I have 2… My sister and my best friend of 27 years… There will be 2 speeches


Post # 10
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have 2 – my sister (semi-based on technicality) and my bestie from college (plus she’ll be a matron of honor by my date). I’m sure there will be 2 speeches as well. Worked out because my fiance has 2 brothers and wants them both to be best men. 

Post # 11
4335 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

wow, that is a lot of people who have 2 MOH! I think that’s awesome! and I love the suggestions of how to ask them, and let them decide if they want to give a speech.

Post # 12
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am in the same situation. I have 2 best friends and I can’t imagine picking one over the other. What I’m doing to make things “fair” is to divide the Maid/Matron of Honor duties. For example, one Maid/Matron of Honor will stand closer to me during the ceremony, and the other one will sign the marriage certificate, etc. I’m going to have them pick their “jobs” out of a hat to be completely fair. Also, both will be hosting my bridal shower and both will be giving a speech at my reception.

Post # 13
44 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

There is no reasons why you cant have two maid of honors…..its completely acceptable now a days……
Or, if one of the ladies is married, you can have a maid and a matron of honor….
Leave the speech decision on them only….let them do what they want…i mean if both of them want to give speech then let them its perfectly ok…..or you have another option also…like let best man speak while the maid of honor remains silent….

Post # 14
126 posts
Blushing bee

two maid of honors I have it to.

Post # 15
54 posts
Worker bee

I was just a maid of honor in a wedding that had both a maid (myself) and a matron of honor.  The one thing I will caution you against in making this decision: Make sure to communicate your expectations up front. 

I can tell you from experience that in this situation, the matron of honor was, honestly, completely insane.  She did not intend to “share” any of the maid of honor duties, going so far as to pick fights with me when I attempted to help plan the shower and bachlorette parties!  When it came time to discuss speeches at the wedding, she told our mutual friend (the bride) that if she was not the only one speaking she would be “very upset”.  She continually upset the bride by trying to talk about me behind my back because she felt like I was “threatening” their friendship.  I, of course, took the high road and said nothing during all of this, but let me tell you, it made things VERY awkward for everyone! 

I think to make this work, you need to communicate openly with both of them about how they need to work together- and also about how sharing these responsibilities can be a blessing for both of them!  Good Luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@calypso0712: you can have one Maid/Matron of Honor walk down the isle with the Bridesmaid or Best Man and at the reception rotate it. I hope this helps.

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