(Closed) two middle names

posted 8 years ago in Names
  • poll: Will I regret having two middle names?

    Yes, you'll regret that s*it

    No, it's complicated but worth it

    No. It won't even be complicated.

  • Post # 3
    4346 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @mrsSonthebeach:  My dad has no middle name, and his younger brother has two. I don’t think its ever been a problem for him. I would rather have two middle names than a hyphenated name just for simplicities sake. And I think its common in some cultures to have a gajillion middle names, but I couldn’t tell you which ones.

    Post # 4
    1796 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My brother has 2 middle names and hasn’t had any problems that I know of. I think its just a matter of writing 2 names or initials instead of 1 in middle name boxes on the official forms.

    Post # 5
    3622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I didn’t know any of my professors’ middle names, so I don’t know if two middles names will help with your students recognizing you.

    Post # 7
    3967 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I am considering doing this, so I’m interested in hearing what people say!

    Post # 8
    519 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I have had two middle names since birth…my parents couldn’t agree on one…both of them are my grandmothers first names. It doesn’t really bother me other than the fact that my name is just as long as the alphabet. In fact I look forward to when I will get to change my last name simply becuase it will make it shorter. However I fall in the same catagory where I am a teacher, and if it were changed I’m sure it would be an adjustment for my students and fellow co-workers, but my guess is they would adjust to it.

    Post # 10
    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I plan on making my maiden name a second middle name. My surname is unusual and nearly dying out (there’s only one male in the family to keep it going and he’s four-years-old, so we’ll see what happens!). Plus, my surname is a part of me and I don’t want to lose it. I don’t see why I need to remove a part of me when I marry.

    On a different-ish note, if we have children, my maiden name will also be a second middle name for them.

    Post # 11
    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    This is what my mother did, she wanted me to do the same but I chose not too.

    I think it works perfectly.

    Post # 12
    262 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve had two middle names my whole life and neither were a last name. I didn’t even know it was common to only have one middle name until grade school. It hasn’t really affected me at all except for that it can be a pain to fit on official forms. However, not many people even know I have two since middle names are rarely used except for the middle initial, so if you are wanting people to recognize you by your middle names, watch out for that!

    Post # 13
    2468 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    honestly, i did this, except technically i have 2 last names, not 2 middle, and i completely regret it–not the 4 names per say, but i so wish i’d just hyphenated!! it is SO much easier to have a hyphen than 4 names, i promise you! i think sometimes about going back and re-changing it to have a hyphen, but the idea of dealing with all that bureacracy again makes me want to cry…

    Post # 14
    1052 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    My mom did this and its a huge PITA.  She is always having to choose to leave one off, which means her name isn’t the same on all documents.  It’s hard to keep straight and uniform.  She wishes she hadn’t done it.

    Post # 15
    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have had two middle names since birth and it’s not complicated at all for me.

    Post # 16
    11506 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I don’t know if you’ve already made your decision or not, since I just saw this thread today, and you originally posted it four weeks ago. However, if you haven’t made the decision yet, I hope the following info will be helpful.

    I really wanted to do this also, and I have two friends who chose to do this.  They became First Middle Maiden Last.  At some point, the state in which we all lived decided that you could not do this on your drivers’ license, because I contacted our motor vehicle administration to ask about this.  Also, one of these friends told me that she really regretted having done this, and, if she could do it again, she would have dropped her given middle name. She works for the federal government, and even her agency has her name wrong in their system, having it hyphenated when she did not hyphenate. She said it causes all sorts of issues for her at doctors’ offices, etc.

    So, I ultimately decided to let go of my middle name. In my case, I was not terribly attached to my middle name, but I was extremely attached to my middle initial. I used it everywhere on everything, and I just did not ever like the look of my maiden name without my middle initial. However, I finally decided to drop it in favor of the Jane Smith Doe model, and I could not be happier with my decision to do that.

    Since your given middle name will always travel with you throughout your life, since it’s on your birth certificate, I think you could still consider it part of your name even though it would not be part of your new legal name.  In my case, my husband sometimes calls me by my first and middle names, even though my middle name is no longer part of my legal name and signature.

    One final comment for anyone reading this thread who goes by her middle name instead of her given first name: I had a boss who did this also, and she decided to drop her given first name (since she did not like it or go by that name) and become Middle Maiden Hislast.  (Example: Jane Nicole Smith married John Doe and became Nicole Smith Doe.) 

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