Post # 1
I am getting married in less than two months and none of my friends have mentioned any kind of shower or anything. Most of my friends have been flaking on me with any wedding help or just act like they could care less. My mom just asked me if I was having one and I said I don’t know. She wonders if she should throw one for me or should I just skip it? Is it wrong for my mom to have one for me? I am not sure about the rules for showers. I wonder if my friends would even come.
Post # 3
It sounds like your mom wants to throw one, so I’d let her throw it 🙂 Maybe your friends will jump into the mix!!
If it makes you feel any better, my friends threw me one just less than 2 months before the wedding. Maybe there is a surprise in the making?
Post # 4
Do you have a maid of honor? It’s possible there’s going to be a surprise one and that’s why you haven’t heard anything. If not, I think it’s totally fine to have your mom throw it. My mom’s doing most of mine.
Post # 5
Could you have your mom ask your friend’s if they are planning one under the guise that she would like to help? That may get the ball rolling or solve the issue. I’m sorry to hear they are not being helpful. 🙁
Post # 6
I think it would be fine for your mom to have it. But I bet it’s a surprise and it’s already planned.
Post # 7
It’d be best if your Mom nudged your bridesmaids rather than throwing your shower herself (etiquette-wise, at least). But if she wants to throw a little pre-wedding get together in your honor, that’s certainly her perogative.
Post # 8
You don’t sound like you’re getting a ton of support from your friends these days! Do you have a Maid/Matron of Honor you could talk to in case she’s already planning it? If not or if you don’t want to ask, I think it’s fine to have your Mom throw your shower! Or maybe your Mom has a close friend who could host it at her place? That’s what my Mom and her friend did; for her friend’s daughter’s shower, it was at my Mom’s house.
Post # 9
My friend’s mom and grandma insisted on throwing the shower and the other bridesmaid’s and I did most of the planning (food, theme, favors, etc.) but it was easier to give in and let them host as they really wanted to. Every bride should have a shower and if your mom wants to throw one, that’s wonderful and you should tell her yes to go ahead. You’ll never regret letting her do that for you. Good luck!
Post # 10
If your mom wants to throw you a shower I think that’s fine. Most showers I have been to were co-hosted by the bridal party, the MOB, and the Future Mother-In-Law. Some of my family have had their showers hosted by my Aunts, Grandma, and their mother. Just in case they may have a surprise up their sleeve your mom could do a little nudge in their direction. She could also host one for your side of the family if she likes. I know some people have seperate ones for friends and family.
Post # 11
Maybe it’s a surprise shower? But, just the same, maybe you should let your mom throw you a shower. She wants her daughter to be happy! It’s super sweet. 🙂
Post # 12
I would suggest asking your Maid/Matron of Honor if she were thinking of hosting a shower, and if she says no, then to let your mom do it. Some MOHs don’t know what they are expected to do and she probably hasn’t clued in that it is actually her duty to be in charge of this.
Post # 13
Where I’m from the moms always throw the shower, so maybe your friends and bridal party just assume that your mom is taking care of it. If your mom has contact with your friends, then maybe she could ask them, but if not, it may be weird for her to call your Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaids about it. I’d just let your mom throw one. She needs to get moving on it at this point anyway.
Post # 14
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister and she lives across the country and won’t be coming in till 3 days before the wedding. So I know she isn’t planning it. I don’t have any BM’s it’s a small wedding. I will give it another few weeks and see. My mom dosen’t really talk to my friends so it would be wierd for her to call one of them. I would like to think it is a suprise but most of them couldnt be bother to come to my 40th bday party a fw months ago. Really at this point I want to uninvite most of them. lol I was just on the phone with the one that is supposed to do the reading at my wedding and she says they found a deal on a cruise and might not be coming. haha
Post # 15
@pengoala My mom has been super sweet to me! This wedding has really brought us much closer. So that is a happy note
Post # 16
I see no problem with your mom throwing you a shower!