(Closed) TWO officiants?…

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is it ok to have TWO officiants?
    Sure - in fact we are doing this! : (9 votes)
    82 %
    No - I believe it should only be one person. : (0 votes)
    Two? It's hard enough to find ONE person to marry us! : (2 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

    I didn’t vote — my answer would be MOSTLY like the first option — but I think two officiants can work well if planned properly!  Sister and BIL Bruschetta had a nuptial mass, with two priests co-celebrating the wedding.  And I think both had an equal "part" in the wedding, even if one did more speaking, asked them to repeat the vows he said, etc.

    Post # 4
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    1156 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

    We had one officiant, but I’ve been to many weddings where there were two officiants!  They were all Christian ceremonies where one delivered the main message, and the other had a shorter message along with a prayer.

    I think it’s perfectly fine to have two ministers if they are both ok with it.  

    Post # 5
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    1019 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I did not vote either. Mr. Rain’s father is a pastor and is going to do the honors, but I think it is perfectly fine for you to have two officiants. I see it as being solely a matter of preference.

    Post # 6
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    6 posts
    Newbee

    I think it’s perfectly fine!  We are having 3 officiants…let me explain:

    We are Catholic and getting married in the church that my fiance’ grew up in.  Our former principal, whom he is very close to is one of our officiants, my fiance’s former classmate is also a priest, and he is our other officiant.  It is tradition to ask the Pastor of the church to participate in the ceremony as well, and since we are not getting married in either of our original Priests’ church, that is how we came to have a third officiant, who happens to be close to my fiance’s family!  I was worried about what people would say when we had more than 1, much less 2…but there are close relationships with all 3 people, and it just makes our ceremony mean that much more to us!  It’s your day, do what makes you happy! 🙂

     

    Post # 7
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    815 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s totally fine if that’s what you want.  My sister had a protestant ceremony in a church and had a Catholic priest do a blessing out of respect for the groom’s family.  In the end, you have to do what makes you happy. 

    Post # 8
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    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I voted for the two; it’s not what I’m doing but I’ve seen it done and done well. You’ll need to make sure both officiants are okay with the shared role, and there will be some work to include both sides in the proportions you feel comfortable with.

    The wedding I’ve been to with two officiants had a rabbi and an ecumenical/ Christian minister. It was a long ceremony, but very nice. 

    Post # 9
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We’re having two but it’s more like one plus a backup.  My Future Mother-In-Law will be marrying us, but she’s asked her friend to be there for support and to take over if she starts crying or whatever.  She didn’t ask if this was ok.  I am hoping she makes it through.  🙂 

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