(Closed) Two or Three kids?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: What is the "ideal" number of children?
    1 : (19 votes)
    8 %
    2 : (120 votes)
    53 %
    3 : (64 votes)
    28 %
    4 or more. : (22 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 47
    Member
    124 posts
    Blushing bee

    I want to have 2, but am open to the possibility of 3. But close in age. Twins run in my family, so it would be perfect if I got pregnant with twins (if I got pregnant with triplets I would be ok with it as well). If I get pregnant with “just” one baby, I will try to have a second one within the 12 months after I had the first one, as I want them to be close in age. I am 7 years older than my brother, and while we are good friends now he is 17 and I am 24 (good friends for a couple of years already), it wasn’t always like that. I wish I had a sibling that was close in age to me, so I want to give that chance to my children.

     

    Darling Husband is an only child, his only cousin is older than him (my husband is 26 and his cousin is 40) and doesn’t want to have any kids, so our kids will be the only ones in the next generation of his family.

    Post # 48
    Member
    2948 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    I always said I wanted 3 but the reality is I have 2 beautiful boys. My husbands really didn’t want anymore so I gave in as I felt we both had to want another child:(

    I was sad about this for many years but I know 2 is enough for us.

    Post # 49
    Member
    131 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I always thought 2 would be ideal. A boy and a girl. 

     

    I now have 3 boys lol.

    I thought after my 3rd, I would want another but no…. 3 is a handful. Maybe I will change my mind once he is past age 3. That is when I usually get baby fever again

     

     

     

    Post # 50
    Member
    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I said 3.. but I am pregnant with #4.  I was fine with 3 kids, always wanted 3 kids (well, after realistically calculating costs and what not).  Three was perfect for us and I grew up as a middle child of 3.  

    I thought I was done after 3 and I was super happy with 3.  I think  anything over 4 is a bit much LOL and don’t know how people do it and am worried how we will do it with 4 kids.  All 3 of my kids will be in school so it will be just me and baby during the day, so I look forward to that (kinda like just having the 1 kid for a few hours) BUT it is a lot of kids.  We have to get a bigger vehicle, vacations have gotten more expensive, and just general expenses will be increased.  But it is life and we are happy to be set with 4 kids and be a family of 6.

    I always thought just having 1 or 2 kids was not enough LOL.  But I do think people who stop when they know they should are smart.

    Post # 51
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    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    This is something you’ll want to reevaluate once you actually have a child.  No point in arguing about it now, especially since the difference is just one child (not like you want 1 and he wants 5).  My husband and I thought we wanted 2.  I’m pregnant now with my 1st and am already reevaluating having a 2nd.  It is so. much. money.  You might be in different circumstances from us, but thinking about the cost of daycare ($1000+ a month) and either the cost of private school or affording a house in a good school district, it’s just so much money.

    Post # 52
    Member
    1143 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Not TTC, but have thought of and discussed this with my husband. I think two or three would be “ideal,” but it would depend on various factors. For example, I wouldn’t want to have kids back-to-back-to-back (like getting pregnant again as soon as possible), but I also wouldn’t want to have a large age gap between oldest and youngest. It would also depend on economic factors, if we had a house that could accomodate multiple children.

    I’m not trying to put a price on having children, but that is something that we would have to consider. Could we afford to bring another child into this world, just because we want a specfic number of children? Could we provide for them all that they need, and not go into debt doing so?

     

    I have two siblings, but the older sister is quite a bit older, so growing up it was just me and the younger sister.

    Post # 53
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    3460 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Well, this is a pretty old post, but it seems people are finding it interesting again.  I want 2.  Darling Husband is uncertain and would likely be happier with 1 (due to expenses and energy).  I am finding it hard to say “ok, 1 is ok” because I feel like having siblings was really important to me growing up (and even more important when parents pass) so I’d prefer not to have an only child.  We’ll see.  He’s not even ready for 1 kid yet.

    Post # 54
    Member
    1115 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I dont know why anyone wastes time and energy arguing with their spouses or fiances over a specific number of kids before they have had even the first one. Everything changes every time you add a new child to the mix. For example my husband and I were firmly agreed on two children prior to having our first., but now that Dear Daughter is here we are struggling with the decision of whether to have a second. We very well may end up deciding to just stick with the one and be happy. as long as you can agree you both want kids, go ahead and have one and go from there. Its not like you can intentionally have three at once anyway. 

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