Post # 1
My fiance and I are both close to our different pastors. Since we want a short (ie no “sermon”) ceremony, I’m not sure how we could use both pastors. Does anyone have experience with having two officiants? How did it work out? Would you do it differently if you could do it again?
Post # 3
Honestly, I have never heard of such a thing.
Have you proposed this idea to them?
Perhaps One can do the opening and closing prayer, while the other does the actual marriage?
Post # 4
My Fiance and I are very close to two pastors as well. We solved it by having one of them do the ceremony and the other as a groomsman 😉 If that isn’t an option I agree with Mrs.Argentina, maybe you could ask them if it would be possible and if they could work with you to plan the ceremony?
Post # 5
We’re using two celebrants: my brother and my fiance’s priest. Because it’s in an orthodox church, we’re basically doing two ceremonies, back to back. The protestant one with my brother where he does the vows and rings and then the orthodox one with the priest where he does the symbolic stuff like the crowning and drinking of wine, etc. They are both giving sermons. It’s very complicated and we have been working on it for over a year now.
I’ve been to many weddings with more than one celebrant. Usually the one of the home church does a welcome and a prayer. Then one does the sermon and vows/ring exchange. Maybe another one does a sermon. Maybe another does the closing prayer and announcements. If you’re not into a sermon, it might be difficult to incorporate 2 pastors. Maybe just go for one. Or have one do the prayer and welcome at the reception?
And as hard as it is to give up ceremony wishes, my brother reminded me to focus on your marriage, not the wedding. Even if the ceremony or the reception aren’t exactly what you want (and mine is), your vows, your commitment, and your love are what are important; not who does what. Of course you have to sort through details and you if you can make it work, fight for it. But at the end of the day, focus on your marriage. Good luck!
Post # 6
I’m considering doing this, as my uncle and cousin are both pastors. My thought is just to have them rotate different parts of the ceremony. I think since they know each other, they can coordinate. Still working out the specifics, but I think it’s totally doable.
Post # 8
My daughter had two officiants and we’ve attended several weddings with more than one officiant.
USUALLY–there is one officiant who does the vows.
The others have done an opening prayer or unity candle prayer or communion.
Never seen a wedding with two officiants delivering the vows.
Hope that helps