Post # 1
Hear me out, we’re having our reception at a restaurant and it can only hold 110 max.. we figured having the wedding in Vegas would help cut down the guestlist (we’re both from LA) but there’s still a good amount of people intending to go.. DAMN YOU VEGAS FOR BEING SO FUN!!!!!
I looked at the complete guestlist and made a second guestlist that I call the “99% sure they’re coming” guestlist.. and that second guestlist is already at 101 people (the 2 people who just RSVP’d “no” were on this second list.. YAY!).. meaning there are 9 spots left for any unexpected guests. I’m super worried and keeping my fingers crossed that we don’t go over!
Post # 3
I have the same problem! I originally intended for our wedding to be smaller and our venue only holds between 90 and 108. I have 114 on the guest list and I’m looking forward to some no rsvps.
Post # 4
Geez, I’m scared reading this. I have spots for 160 and there’s 184 we think are coming. I really hope the whole 15% wont show up is true or I’m totally screwed. The venue can hold 200 but my budget can only hold 160 lol.
Post # 5
Hahaha, I can understand…this is why I’m not sending save the dates! My BFF asked if I would and I said ‘No, then people will!’ It sounds cheesy, but the important people to us will be there no matter what, and the people that don’t want to come but we are forced to invite will have a good excuse NOT to (you can’t already have plans over a year in advance unless they’re REALLY good). Crossing fingers for you!!
Post # 6
LOL!!! so funny. but we all understand. I hate how ‘etiquette’ forces us to invite extanded family over closer friends, and invite people who we know/think/hope can’t come, so as not to be rude.
Just the other day one of my FI’s aunts, who did NOT get a STD, found out about our wedding website via Gramma, logged on, and signed our guestbook saying- “Can’t wait to come out and enjoy your big day!” How presumptuous! cheeky lady, just inviting herself like that.
our hopes for a small-ish wedding seem impossible now. 🙁
Post # 7
Hahaha, yay date twin! I would say I feel the same, but we have literally had NO ONE RSVP “No.” What? We aren’t that great guys….. Lol. We don’t have a venue issue, but I would like to keep our catering costs a bit lower than with our guest list at max. We shall see. Plenty more RSVPs to go.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
Yay for NOs! I also want to get some No’s so I can invite more friends and work people.
Post # 9
That is sooo funny…I was the same. My mom told me some family friends are most likely a NO and I cheered…she didn’t feel the same! They tell you to expect 20% no….BUT when you go to a destination place like Banff to expect an extra 20% haha.
Oh well…it may be a tad tight for dinner but the more the marrier!
I am getting excited as all I have been hearing is HOW EXCITED everyone is to come! Enjoy the day…with or without the added guests.
Post # 10
@Barika: Wow I had never heard of Banff before now. Just looked into it, GORGEOUS town!
My main fear is our max is 110, if we go over we have to rent the adjoining room (the walls slide back to connect to the current 2 rooms I have reserved) and pay another $2500 room minimum. THAT we definitely don’t have room for in the budget.
Post # 11
Woo hoo! We are hoping for a few “no’s” as well!
Post # 12
UPDATE: just got more “no” RSVPs.. this time it was for a family of 6 (including 4 kids that I’m not too fond of anyway!). I am beyond stoked right now. I almost feel a little guilty haha.
Post # 13
I haven’t even sent the invitations yet and I have an expected “no” RSVP list. I’m hoping we get a good handful of no’s!
Post # 14
Etiquette only says that you should invite family in ‘tiers’. i.e. if you invite one first cousin you invite them all, if you invite one great aunt you invite all the great aunts and uncles.
Maybe I’m an oddball but why are we cheering that people can’t celebrate our special day with us? That seems counterintuitive to me. And why invite more ppl than your venue accommodates? People do get 100% RSVPs sometimes…
Post # 15
@Barika: SO jealous, Banff! We got engaged there, at teh RImrock hotel. It’s beyond gorgeous. Enjoy, hope you share some of your pics! Where are you having it?
Post # 16
I feel the same way!! It’s not about venue size as much as it is about catering cost! In my head I’m saying PLLLLEAAASSEEE don’t come….I thought that made me horrible….now I see it just makes me normal 🙂 Thanks for the post!