Post # 1
My fiance and I have planned lovely wedding that will handle 100. My mother has an additional 65 family and church friends she would like to invite. She has been to all their children’s showers, weddings etc. and now wants that reciprocated. One suggestion is invite everyone to the church for the ceremony, have a quick cake and nuts reception for everyone, then move teh 100 to dinner. (this could be called out of town guests, bridal party and family.) has anyone done this? Is this done? is it rude? I have been to weddings like that, but am not sure if it is good manners. Help!?
Post # 3
I think it’s kind of rude to do that. Plus, if I were one of the 100, I’d feel like there was too much going on and that it would be a little chaotic. How would you prevent some of the 100 from mentioning the following reception to the 65? It just seems like you’re asking for trouble there.
Post # 4
Please do not do this. It’s called a tiered reception and they are very rude. People know that weddings are not tit for tat. So just because your mom went to their or their children’s weddings does not mean they have to come to yours.
What you could do for members of the church though, is open up the ceremony to everyone in the church community. You would put something in the church bulletin annoucing your wedding (no invites) and then those that choose to come to the ceremony will not expect to come to the reception.
Post # 5
yep, I’d feel offended if I was invited to only half of the festivities and would prefer not be invited at all.
Your mother needs to rememeber that just because she got invited somewhere, doesn’t mean she owes it to that person to return the favour to her daughter’s wedding. Weddings are just not that simple! I’d suggest your mother talk to her friends and mention that unfrotauntely you are pressed for numbers but that they’d be welcome seeing you in the church if they’d like. That is open for anyone