Post # 1
I have a white gold engagement ring that I love. I think it is gorgeous and is so much more than I expected.
When I wear white gold, I don’t wear yellow and vice versa. I know lots of people mix and match, it’s just my personal preference not to.
Fiancé is uncomfortable with me not wearing my engagement ring when I wear my yellow gold jewelry. I want to purchase a second, *much* more modest, wedding set in yellow gold so that I have something bridal to wear on my ring finger when I wear my yellow gold jewelry. I can afford it without issue, I’m not asking my fiancé to pay for it, and our finances are not combined.
Artemer yellow gold a set for reference: https://www.etsy.com/listing/185386361/pear-diamond-engagement-ring-with-a-pave?ref=shop_home_active_12
Fiancé is weirded out by the idea and wants me to ask what other people think. I admit it’s uncommon, but is it also off-putting? Am I totally weird?
Post # 2
Eh, it’s not common but if matching metals is super important to you the only people who are going to care are you and your fiancé.
Personally, my engagement ring and wedding band have way to much sentimental importance to me for me to just have another set that I view as interchangeable with them. But some people aren’t as sentimental about thier rings. But my guess is that your fiancé is a little hurt that you aren’t.
Post # 3
What about a mixed metal band so that when you wear gold it would tie it all together?
Post # 4
I do not think it is weird. I have a few sets. Audrey Hepburn had three rings. One in yellow gold, one rose gold and one white gold. That way she always matched.
Post # 5
What about just a yellow gold band for when you wear yellow gold (as in addition to whatever white gold band you pick out)? I know plenty of women that don’t wear their engagement ring everyday to work, but always have at least their wedding band. This way you are still “married” but don’t have to worry about mixed metals?
I wouldn’t get a whole second set.
Post # 6
I agree with the previous poster that suggested getting a yellow and white gold two toned band to wear with your set or just stack a yellow gold band with your set while you wear gold to tie things together. Or maybe even a yellow gold band to wear alone. If he’s cool with you getting another set then go for it but I will say, the set your considering although beautiful is a bit overpriced for only being 0.20 carats
Post # 7
tinneranne2 : I was married before and had 3 different wedding bands (platinum, yellow gold, and rose) that I wore depending on my outfit and other jewelry. I wore the same platinum ering with it bc it was a diamond and pave so it didn’t really look like “white/silver” metal- it seemed neutral. Ppl either didn’t notice or thought it was cool. Many ppl outside the US change up the ring that they wear as a wedding band or ering. Im engaged again and will have at least 2 endings (1 family heirloom, a maybe 1ct equivalent emerald w large diamond halo in yellow gold, and 1 he bought for me, a 2.5ct equivalent yellow/green/blue sapphire solitaire in yellow and rose gold). I’ll probably get 2-3 wedding bands in different colors and switch them out as I want.
Do whatever you like. Other ppl aren’t usually that concerned w exactly what’s on your ring finger (especially past recent engagement). I like the Audrey Hepburn way. Hers also weren’t huge stones though (an eternity band and two hammered kinda bands) and her FI/husband gave all 3 to her. I kinda prefer my Fiance to get me whatever “extra” rings I wear on that finger so they’re still from him. You might want you Fiance involved in picking out whatever other rings you get to wear on that finger bc ppl will assume that they’re from him-so if he hates them or thinks that they’re too small or too low quality, you might want to consider that bc some ppl may judge him in some way based on what ring/s you wear on that finger.
Post # 9
Not weird. I’m not sure I’d do it, but hey, you do you!
I tend to think of a woman’s wedding set as more a part of her than her jewelry. But again, that’s me.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
I actually want to have an alternate set myself. I absolutely adore my ring, but I feel like I change up the rest of my jewellery so often that I want to have a secondary set for my e-ring and wedding band too.
Post # 11
Hikingbride: I don’t think you’re far off on that count. I love the man, I love the ring…but it’s true I’m not the sentimental type when it comes to things.
missconvy: I personally don’t like the look of mixed metals, but that would certainly work for other women who are looking for ways to tie everything together.
Elmindreda13: A) yay WoT. I’m currently rereading the first book and I’m geeking out a little. ^u^ B) I’d be fine with having a yellow gold band that I wear by itself. I can wait 7 months to wear my gold jewelry until we are married.
Thanks for your input ladies! I shared your thoughts with fiancé. He said he still finds it weird, but accepts that it may not actually *be* weird. Lol
Post # 12
LOL.. you do whatever makes you happy..period.
Post # 13
I have a colleague who is always wearing different rings on her ring finger, and I think it’s awesome – I’ve never asked her about it directly, but it clearly reflects her different moods and outfits while always having something on that finger. Personally I love the idea of switching it up. I’m not married so I haven’t encountered the issue myself yet, but I can definitely see wanting to own multiple rings in different metals. (And, for that matter, an inexpensive ring or simple metal band for travel/gym/gardening, etc.).
I do get sentimental about jewelry, but I have multiple pieces I’m sentimental about, including various pieces of family jewelry from different eras and totally different styles that I would never wear together, and I’m not a mixed metals fan either, though I do think it can look great on other people.
I wonder if your fiance thinks you’re trying to say you don’t like the ring or is worried that you’ll wear the new set more than the original?
Post # 14
This is something I feel like my sister would do! Nothing wrong with it at all I think! I don’t see any issues with wanting all your jewelry to match! About a year ago I started loving yellow gold, so I slowly switched out all my silver earrings for gold ones, and now I’m all yellow gold all the time! I would probably think about getting a second ring in white gold, I just neverrr wear white gold.
If I did though, I feel like I would just maybe get a second band, that’s in the different metal.
I plan on getting a second wedding band, a silicon one, that I can wear working out. I don’t want to scuff up my pretties with barbells and kettlebells :p
Sorry I feel like I rambled here :p
Post # 15
tinneranne2 : I have about 15 sets that I can mix and match. So no its not odd at all. It is still uncommon in the general population. However my gran, my aunty and I all change up out sets daily.
The ring you posted is beautiful.
PS don’t forget a cheap silver set for the gym , swimming and holidays he he