Post # 1
I have two daughters who have gotten engaged 3 months apart. Both want to get married in 2020, one at the beginning at May, the other the beginning of July. I need help trying to decide when to have their showers. I don’t want to have either shower 1 month before each wedding because that would be 4 family events, 1 a month right after an other. How can I plan these showers so that it is not too much of a financial strain on family that would attend all 4 celebrations. I appreciate any and all suggestions!!! Combining showers is not an option.
Post # 2
For our engagement party and for my bridal shower, we specified that gifts were not necessary or expected. Guests are already going to be bringing a gift for our wedding, so we did not want people to think they need to be spending on multiple gifts.
Post # 3
Lisa2020 : Congratulations mum!
Easy, have the showers January for the May one and March for the July one. You don’t have to have them super close to the wedding, and you have a tonne of time to plan.
Post # 4
Another option would be giving each sister her own shower, but on the same day or weekend. That might help people who are traveling from out of town, but could be a burden for elderly people who don’t have the stamina for two events. If you do them on the same day, one could be a breakfast and the other could be an afternoon tea party or dinner. Or, you could do one on a Saturday and one on a Sunday.
If you want to space them out more, just go ahead and do them a couple months earlier than normal. Everyone will understand why you are choosing to do it that way.
Post # 5
You could just not do showers at all.
Post # 6
Why are you planning your daughter’s showers? I thought that was for sisters/friends/cousins to plan, not the mom of bride
Post # 7
sboom : Agreed. If it’s too much of a financial strain to attend the showers close together, it’s likely too much of a strain regardless of spacing.
Post # 8
Lisa2020 : Are showers supposed to be 1 month before the wedding? Could you have the showers earlier to allow more time between them and weddings- like have the first one in late 2019 and the other in early 2020?
Post # 9
minnesotabride17 : Just trying to keep a smooth, streamline timeline. I’m not really planning them, just trying to help out. No one else has any experience with planning anything like this.
Post # 10
minnesotabride17 : huh? I thought it was normally the mom who planned showers….?