(Closed) Two wedding brides — when did you change your name?

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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348 posts
Helper bee

In most states, the legal name change has to be done at the civil ceremony, or it will be a much larger hassle with paperwork.

I didn’t change my name, but did have both a small civil ceremony and larger wedding.  I would not change your name socially after the small civil ceremony if it is important to you that people (including you and your family) think of the larger wedding as the “real” wedding.  You don’t want that symbolism on what you perceive as the less important date.

If you want to start using your maiden name until the wedding, however, that seems like a great solution, as long as you aren’t surrounded by easily-confused people.

Post # 4
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I don’t know what historienne means when she says you have to change it at the civil ceremony—because you can change your name anytime you want after you are married. You could do it after the legal ceremony or wait a few months until after the church ceremony. Socially you can call yourself anything that you want, whether it’s your legal name or not. I would just make the decision about the legal change based on what it is most convenient for you to go. It sounds like you would like to get it taken care of before the church ceremony. That will be fine and won’t really impact much. You don’t have to put your legal name on your wedding invitations!

Post # 5
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309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re doing the same thing, but our civil wedding is only a week before the curch wedding, so the name-thing is not such a big deal. By The Way over here in Germany you have to change your name at the civil wedding (or you can keep your maiden name of course, but you cannot change it later).

Still I won’t feel like I’m married before the church wedding and at leat I won’t wear my wedding ring until then.

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