Post # 1
So basically what happend is in May of this year we had a little wedding 13 people or so all friends no family. It was perfect until family found out. So we have decided to recreate the special day for them on our anniversary next year. The reason no family was not invited in the first place is due to the amount of stress it would have been on both my husband and I. So not having to do the ceremony and just haveing pictures and reception will be a lot less stressful (I hope) Unfortunately my dress doesn’t fit me anymore as I’ve recently dropped 15 pounds or so. I’m having my friend who made my first dress make me a similar one to this. It’s exciting it feels like it’s happening all over again.
Post # 3
Why not have an anniversary party instead of a “wedding”?
you made the decision to have no family, nothing will ever change that. I think trying to recreate that day will only serve as a reminder that you didn’t include them. If I were your family, I might almost feel offended that you would expect them to rally and celebrate a recreation of a wedding after not including them at the real one.
an anniversary party would still be a celebration of your marriage.
Post # 4
@PinkPinstripes: She never mentioned a wedding ceremony. Just a reception and photographs. The definition a reception being an official “recieving” of the couple, does not refer to a specific time frame and as the family has not “recieved” them yet, a reception does not seem out of line. And it seems like it was her family’s idea to begin with. All signs point to go
Post # 5
@PamelaBrit: Yes it’s true it was my family pestering me about it until I finally gave in.
My sisters want to dress up as bridesmaids and take photos with everyone, So we are all required to dress formal, which is why I am having another “wedding” dress made. Although it will be champange colored so I can still wear it out for other special occasions in the future.
Post # 6
@PamelaBrit: I get where you’re coming from but a reception is a party, so it’s essentially an anniversary party. I just don’t get “recreating” it if you chose to have it a certain way. I would understand the logic of a recreation if there had been some extenuating circumstance that prevented them from having a wedding originally the way they wanted,
the OP asked for opinions, that’s my opinion.
OP- you should ultimately do whatever makes you and your husband happy.
Post # 7
@PinkPinstripes: I can live with that 🙂
Post # 8
Just wanted to say my husband and I got married just the two of us on the beach. Since our friends and family were not able to be there we are having a “celebration of love” on our one year anniversary. For some family members vow renewals are not appropriate so we will not re-read them, but they will be printed and displayed with photos from our beach wedding. I am wearing a wedding dress, he will be wearing a suit, my dad is walking me down the isle, ect. It could still be a celebration of your love or anniversary celebration. I think you can still wear your dress and even if you guys want to say your same vows or just reflections of your love for each other over all or from the last year. You don’t have to do a full ceremony but make it where it works for both sides.
Post # 9
I voted Good Idea, but I am struggling with a similar dilemma right now.
We want to get married soon for techical reasons, but we cannot pull off a wedding with this short notice as my family lives in Europe. So we’re toyin gwith the idea to just get married in the courthouse and have our nice wedding with families Sept 2013.
I think if your family is on board, why not? They clearly want to celebrate with you, so I say go for it!
Post # 10
Go for it! Everyone loves a party. And that dress is an excellent choice.
Post # 11