Post # 1
We are thinking of having two wedding ceremonies in one day.
One just with immediate family only in the morning, and then do it all again infront of our family and friends later in the day where we will be having our actual reception.
Is this crazy?
We are worried that people might think that they are missing out?
Post # 3
Why do you want 2 ceremonies? It would be much easier to do one!
Post # 4
We really like the idea of a family only extremely intimate garden wedding where we are surrounded by those that are so important to us.
We then like the idea of having a more relaxed second ceremony on the same day so that all our extended family and friends can also witness us exchange our vows.
We would go for our photos in between the two ceremonies so we could then get straight into celebrating with our friends at the second one.
We are worried that people might feel like they have missed out though?
Post # 5
I would feel like I had missed out- because I had. There is really no reason to say your vows twice. Once you have said them once, you are married, and there is no need for a second ceremony.
I would skip the morning ceremony, spend the morning hanging out with your immediate families and just enjoying their company, and then spend the rest of the day on your single ceremony & reception.
(Also something else to consider is WHY on earth your immediate families would want to sit through two of your wedding ceremonies in one day).
Post # 6
That does seem unusual. Could you do some sort of gathering with your family in the morning (a brunch, or a blessing time, or something like that) to have that time with just them and then do the actual ceremony later? Or have a small ceremony and then simply have a large reception later? I agree with the others who say that repeating the ceremony twice in the same day seems unnecessary.
Post # 7
This is probably going to be an unpopular opinion, but this is what i think: if you want a small ceremony have one. If i was invited to just a reception because the couple wanted a very small intimate ceremony i would so NOT be offended or feel like i missed out. Its not my wedding, to each their own.
I don’t really understand doing it twice in one day, if thats what you want go for it, but i think it’s a little odd, personally. But i can’t put my finger on why.
Post # 8
@wedding_advice_please: I don’t really get this…I mean, picture yourself walking down the aisle towards your husband during the second ceremony. I don’t know, to me it would be too weird. Like, we just did this. And I don’t think your guests will understand it either. If you want to have a tiny ceremony followed by a reception later in the day, that is fine. But basically renewing your vows a few hours after doing them for the first time just seems incredibly strange,
Post # 9
We feel that this is what suits us best.
We want to be surrounded by those who are nearest and dearest to us. We want it to be extremely intimate. There would only be 20 ppl at the first ceremony which would only last 20 minutes and would have 150 ppl at our second ceremony.
We would not be ruling out the first ceremony- if anything we would not have the second and just have a reception but I think that if people were going to feel like they missed out before then they would definitely feel like they had missed out if we didnt have the second ceremony.
Post # 10
@Lee_Ann: Thanks for that. That is what I was hoping for!
I think people may find it strange that we are having two ceremonies but I am hoping that people would be happy just to witness us getting married even if we had already done it once.
The vows would be different at both and I am sure that there will be just as many emotions the second time as we will be surrounded by all our friends.
Post # 11
@Wonderstruck: Thanks for your post – personally I can think of nothing better than getting those butterflies in my stomach as I walk down the isle for a second time to see my gorgeous groom! Everyone loves a wedding and I would have thought that our friends would just be happy to see us get married even if we had already done it once that day. But maybe I am wrong!
Post # 12
Who cares! No one at the second ceremony will even know you did it in the morning. So how would they know that they are missing out? Do what you want! We are having a Buddhist ceremony in PA with our parents and then another ceremony in WV for everyone else. No one is going to know that we are having a Buddhist ceremony. Frankly, I can’t fit 150 in my living room infront of my shrine. z
Oh, and technically you aren’t married until you send in the certificate.
Post # 13
Why not just have your small first ceremony, then celebrate with everyone at the reception later in the day? They technically wouldn’t be watching you get married the second time anyway, since you’d be getting married earlier in the day at the first ceremony.
Post # 14
I think if friends of mine were getting married ealier in the day, I would still prefer to see them exchange their vows and see a girlfriend walk down the aisle than miss out on seeing it all together because some people think it is ‘wierd’ the second ceremony and reception would all be at the same venue.
Post # 15
Why not have just the small intimate ceremony and then a big reception with everyone. That is what I would do. I think having two ceremonies would be too stressful.
Post # 16
We had 2 wedding ceremonies 2 weeks apart. The first was in a church and was just for our immediate family. It was really beautiful and felt so intimate. Then 2 weeks later we did a big traditional wedding with 150 guests, which was so fun and we felt overwhelmed with joy to be sharing the day with everyone we loved. We opted not to tell any of our extended family about the first wedding just so they didn’t feel left out.
Honestly i wouldn’t trade either ceremony for the world and I say do both! Who cares if you say your vows twice? You love that person and you want to shout it from the roof tops!
Do what makes you happy, not what other view as “right”.
Here is some pics from our small church wedding and our big wedding!