(Closed) Two Weddings in one day

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Why do you want 2 ceremonies?  It would be much easier to do one!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would feel like I had missed out- because I had. There is really no reason to say your vows twice. Once you have said them once, you are married, and there is no need for a second ceremony.

 

I would skip the morning ceremony, spend the morning hanging out with your immediate families and just enjoying their company, and then spend the rest of the day on your single ceremony & reception.

(Also something else to consider is WHY on earth your immediate families would want to sit through two of your wedding ceremonies in one day).

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

That does seem unusual. Could you do some sort of gathering with your family in the morning (a brunch, or a blessing time, or something like that) to have that time with just them and then do the actual ceremony later? Or have a small ceremony and then simply have a large reception later? I agree with the others who say that repeating the ceremony twice in the same day seems unnecessary.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is probably going to be an unpopular opinion, but this is what i think:  if you want a small ceremony have one.  If i was invited to just a reception because the couple wanted a very small intimate ceremony i would so NOT be offended or feel like i missed out.  Its not my wedding, to each their own. 

I don’t really understand doing it twice in one day, if thats what you want go for it, but i think it’s a little odd, personally.  But i can’t put my finger on why.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@wedding_advice_please: I don’t really get this…I mean, picture yourself walking down the aisle towards your husband during the second ceremony. I don’t know, to me it would be too weird. Like, we just did this. And I don’t think your guests will understand it either. If you want to have a tiny ceremony followed by a reception later in the day, that is fine. But basically renewing your vows a few hours after doing them for the first time just seems incredibly strange,

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Who cares! No one at the second ceremony will even know you did it in the morning. So how would they know that they are missing out? Do what you want! We are having a Buddhist ceremony in PA with our parents and then another ceremony in WV for everyone else. No one is going to know that we are having a Buddhist ceremony. Frankly, I can’t fit 150 in my living room infront of my shrine. z

Oh, and technically you aren’t married until you send in the certificate. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Why not just have your small first ceremony, then celebrate with everyone at the reception later in the day? They technically wouldn’t be watching you get married the second time anyway, since you’d be getting married earlier in the day at the first ceremony.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why not have just the small intimate ceremony and then a big reception with everyone. That is what I would do. I think having two ceremonies would be too stressful.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

 

We had 2 wedding ceremonies 2 weeks apart. The first was in a church and was just for our immediate family. It was really beautiful and felt so intimate. Then 2 weeks later we did a big traditional wedding with 150 guests, which was so fun and we felt overwhelmed with joy to be sharing the day with everyone we loved. We opted not to tell any of our extended family about the first wedding just so they didn’t feel left out.

Honestly i wouldn’t trade either ceremony for the world and I say do both! Who cares if you say your vows twice? You love that person and you want to shout it from the roof tops!

Do what makes you happy, not what other view as “right”.

Here is some pics from our small church wedding and our big wedding!

 

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