Post # 17
@Miss CuppyCake: Thanks for your post. How beautiful, and how special that you got to do it all twice. Gorgeous photos too – thanks for sharing – nice to know that someone else has done it and loved it. I am sure that it isnt something that I would ever regret.
Post # 18
I’m with these 2. I’m doing a similar thing… a small Catholic ceremony with close family one day (about 12 people), and a large outdoor ceremony with eveyrone else (about 100 people). I’m not advertising it to everyone, but if people ask if I’m having any Catholic stuff, I tell them the truth. There have been 3 or so people who have asked, and I told them, and none of them are offended at all. If it’s what works for you, do it. You’re not gonna get 100% love on the Bee with it, though 🙂
Post # 19
Do it! Just don’t tell anyone else, because they will think it’s weird too. My Fiance has been mentioning this to me a few times too, he says he is going to be shaking so bad that he would rather do it in front of less people, I have thought about it, and we may do that 🙂
Post # 20
Doing two ceremonies would be a bit odd to me if they were exactly the same (I would feel like I was reenacting the first one), but if they were different – like the example of a religious one and a more personalized one that’s been brought up, or one with traditional vows, the other with personalized ones – then I could see how that might make sense. Do what makes you happy. If you know it is something you want and are “sure that this is something that [you] would never regret” that seems like your answer right there.
Post # 21
As this is the most special day in our lives we think that we should be able to do it this way as fortunately it is what we both want to do. I guess in the end we just have to think that this is what we both wanted and if other people don’t like it well they should just be happy for us. I want to keep it all a secret but my fiance tends to think that we should tell everyone so that they don’t get annoyed when and if they find out on the day. I can see both sides – would be good if everyone was used to the idea before it happend but also if it was a secret no one would be disappointed… decisions decisions….. Thanks for all your advice and thoughts everyone
Post # 22
@wedding_advice_please: I think it’s a really bad idea to start off your life together by lying to your guests. Yeah, some people will say it’s not lying, but sometimes omitting the truth is the same thing as lying, and that’s what you’d be doing. If you’re going to do this at least be honest with your guests.
Yes, it is your wedding so technically you can do whatever you want. But you asked for advice, and that is what I think. And most of your guests would probably agree.
Post # 23
@wedding_advice_please: I did something similar, in that we had a small, intimate ceremony and then a larger reception after that we invited all our extemded family and friends too. No one had any problems or complaints and if anyone asked, and only two people asked, we just explained that we wanted an intimate family only ceremony, and they understood. So I suggest just doing the first, smaller ceremony, but it’s your wedding, so you have to do what works best for you both. Good luck with the planning and whatever you decide.
Post # 24
@dolphi99: Thanks for your advice. I feel the same, if it is what feels right to us and what we want to do then that should be what matters, if our guests are true friends then they will know us and respect that this is how we wanted our special day and we still wanted to include all of them otherwise we wouldn’t be having the second ceremony which will be far more light hearted, fun and definitely still special.
Post # 25
@wedding_advice_please:Personally, i think its an awesome idea!
Post # 26
The way you are describing it seems wierd to me, but it’s your wedding and you can do whatever you want to do. I do think it’s going to be a lot in one day for you both tho, so that’s something to consider.
For me, my husband and I got married by civil ceremony 6 months before our “official” wedding, so 2 weddings isn’t something that bothers me at all. For our “official” wedding we chose to have a small ceremony with just family and a couple of very close friends (total of 37 people) with a much bigger reception the next day (76 people). Some people were a bit wistful that they didn’t get to see the ceremony, but that was how my husband and I wanted to do it. We didn’t want them to feel left out, but we really wanted the ceremony to be intimate and very very personal with only people that had been very instrumental in our lives.
Do what works for you, but I’d very much stress to you to think about your logistics and how things are going to work for getting ready and transported etc. I thought I’d have plenty of time, but everything was so rushed the day of!
Post # 27
@dodgercpkl: Thanks for that, the two wedding locations are only 10 minutes from each other. I would have 3 hours in between to get re prepared for the second ceremony, we are thinking that we might do an hour of photos and then I would have two hours to get ready again I will be getting changed into a different dress also but my Fiance won’t know this either so it is a bit of a nice surprise for him at the second one too. I would be wearing a veil to the first and having it much more traditional and then have a far more laid back and relaxed ceremony and feel for the second venue.
Post # 28
@wedding_advice_please: Another piece of advice as it sounds like it will be a long day for you guys and the wedding party, make sure to take time out to get something to eat and drink. Keep some bottled water with you at all times and have little snacks around to munch on while getting ready so you don’t run out of steam before the second ceremony, or the reception.
Post # 29
I would like to say that I wouldn’t do two in one day. Our Buddhist ceremony is probably going to be a week before or after the ceremony in WV. Only because the Buddhist ceremony is pretty long and again, not everyone is going to fit into my living room.