(Closed) Two Weddings in one day

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Miss Tattoo:

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@Miss CuppyCake:

I’m with these 2.  I’m doing a similar thing… a small Catholic ceremony with close family one day (about 12 people), and a large outdoor ceremony with eveyrone else (about 100 people).  I’m not advertising it to everyone, but if people ask if I’m having any Catholic stuff, I tell them the truth.  There have been 3 or so people who have asked, and I told them, and none of them are offended at all.  If it’s what works for you, do it.  You’re not gonna get 100% love on the Bee with it, though 🙂

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Do it! Just don’t tell anyone else, because they will think it’s weird too. My Fiance has been mentioning this to me a few times too, he says he is going to be shaking so bad that he would rather do it in front of less people, I have thought about it, and we may do that 🙂

Post # 20
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Blushing bee

Doing two ceremonies would be a bit odd to me if they were exactly the same (I would feel like I was reenacting the first one), but if they were different – like the example of a religious one and a more personalized one that’s been brought up, or one with traditional vows, the other with personalized ones – then I could see how that might make sense.  Do what makes you happy.  If you know it is something you want and are “sure that this is something that [you] would never regret” that seems like your answer right there.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@wedding_advice_please: I think it’s a really bad idea to start off your life together by lying to your guests. Yeah, some people will say it’s not lying, but sometimes omitting the truth is the same thing as lying, and that’s what you’d be doing. If you’re going to do this at least be honest with your guests.

 

Yes, it is your wedding so technically you can do whatever you want. But you asked for advice, and that is what I think. And most of your guests would probably agree.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@wedding_advice_please: I did something similar, in that we had a small, intimate ceremony and then a larger reception after that we invited all our extemded family and friends too. No one had any problems or complaints and if anyone asked, and only two people asked, we just explained that we wanted an intimate family only ceremony, and they understood. So I suggest just doing the first, smaller ceremony, but it’s your wedding, so you have to do what works best for you both. Good luck with the planning and whatever you decide.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The way you are describing it seems wierd to me, but it’s your wedding and you can do whatever you want to do.  I do think it’s going to be a lot in one day for you both tho, so that’s something to consider.  

For me, my husband and I got married by civil ceremony 6 months before our “official” wedding, so 2 weddings isn’t something that bothers me at all.  For our “official” wedding we chose to have a small ceremony with just family and a couple of very close friends (total of 37 people) with a much bigger reception the next day (76 people).  Some people were a bit wistful that they didn’t get to see the ceremony, but that was how my husband and I wanted to do it.  We didn’t want them to feel left out, but we really wanted the ceremony to be intimate and very very personal with only people that had been very instrumental in our lives.

Do what works for you, but I’d very much stress to you to think about your logistics and how things are going to work for getting ready and transported etc.  I thought I’d have plenty of time, but everything was so rushed the day of!

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@wedding_advice_please: Another piece of advice as it sounds like it will be a long day for you guys and the wedding party, make sure to take time out to get something to eat and drink. Keep some bottled water with you at all times and have little snacks around to munch on while getting ready so you don’t run out of steam before the second ceremony, or the reception.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would like to say that I wouldn’t do two in one day. Our Buddhist ceremony is probably going to be a week before or after the ceremony in WV. Only because the Buddhist ceremony is pretty long and again, not everyone is going to fit into my living room.

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