- 10 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
I’m with these 2. I’m doing a similar thing… a small Catholic ceremony with close family one day (about 12 people), and a large outdoor ceremony with eveyrone else (about 100 people). I’m not advertising it to everyone, but if people ask if I’m having any Catholic stuff, I tell them the truth. There have been 3 or so people who have asked, and I told them, and none of them are offended at all. If it’s what works for you, do it. You’re not gonna get 100% love on the Bee with it, though 🙂
Do it! Just don’t tell anyone else, because they will think it’s weird too. My Fiance has been mentioning this to me a few times too, he says he is going to be shaking so bad that he would rather do it in front of less people, I have thought about it, and we may do that 🙂
Doing two ceremonies would be a bit odd to me if they were exactly the same (I would feel like I was reenacting the first one), but if they were different – like the example of a religious one and a more personalized one that’s been brought up, or one with traditional vows, the other with personalized ones – then I could see how that might make sense. Do what makes you happy. If you know it is something you want and are “sure that this is something that [you] would never regret” that seems like your answer right there.
As this is the most special day in our lives we think that we should be able to do it this way as fortunately it is what we both want to do. I guess in the end we just have to think that this is what we both wanted and if other people don’t like it well they should just be happy for us. I want to keep it all a secret but my fiance tends to think that we should tell everyone so that they don’t get annoyed when and if they find out on the day. I can see both sides – would be good if everyone was used to the idea before it happend but also if it was a secret no one would be disappointed… decisions decisions….. Thanks for all your advice and thoughts everyone
Yes, it is your wedding so technically you can do whatever you want. But you asked for advice, and that is what I think. And most of your guests would probably agree.
The way you are describing it seems wierd to me, but it’s your wedding and you can do whatever you want to do. I do think it’s going to be a lot in one day for you both tho, so that’s something to consider.
For me, my husband and I got married by civil ceremony 6 months before our “official” wedding, so 2 weddings isn’t something that bothers me at all. For our “official” wedding we chose to have a small ceremony with just family and a couple of very close friends (total of 37 people) with a much bigger reception the next day (76 people). Some people were a bit wistful that they didn’t get to see the ceremony, but that was how my husband and I wanted to do it. We didn’t want them to feel left out, but we really wanted the ceremony to be intimate and very very personal with only people that had been very instrumental in our lives.
Do what works for you, but I’d very much stress to you to think about your logistics and how things are going to work for getting ready and transported etc. I thought I’d have plenty of time, but everything was so rushed the day of!
I would like to say that I wouldn’t do two in one day. Our Buddhist ceremony is probably going to be a week before or after the ceremony in WV. Only because the Buddhist ceremony is pretty long and again, not everyone is going to fit into my living room.
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