- 10 years ago
- Wedding: July 2009
Hi Hive, I need some help… I’m a newbie, engaged early last month and starting the planning now.
My fiance and I are not only two different races & two different religions, but our parents are in two different countries. To resolve this, we decided to have two weddings – one in Africa and one in the US. The hope is that our parents and siblings travel to each one, but this way we can include grandparents, cousins and extended family that wouldn’t be able to travel that distance.
We are having a difficult time picking wedding dates – mostly bc someone has a problem with a date every time we make up our minds.
For various reasons, the Africa wedding seems to work on July 15 week. However, we wanted the US wedding to be in July or August. We don’t want to extend to September bc its cost prohibitive and winter is just too far away for us. Plus Aug. 20th to Sept. 20th is Ramadan, celebrated by half our guests. That leaves us with August 15, which is one week after I am a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding.
Are we crazy/too stressful to travel for a week and return less than 3 weeks prior to our wedding day here in the US? (The venue is a reception hall, so there won’t be much DIY) My mom thinks it is a bad idea and is stressed about making a big trip prior to the wedding day here.
And is it bad etiquette to have the wedding a week after I’m a bridesmaid in another wedding?
Am I being overly neurotic? (that’s what Mr. BK thinks.)