- 3 years ago
Hi everyone! So I never thought I would be planning one wedding let alone two!! My FI’s entire family lives in the UK (Essex) and we and my family live in Canada (Toronto area). Since his grandmother can’t travel here his family has very generously offered to pay for our wedding if we have it in the UK. My Mother-In-Law is awesome and will help us plan it and consult with us before booking anything but I still feel it will be hard to plan from so far away. Also my Mother-In-Law has a bunch of friends and extended family she wants to invite most of which my Fiance and I don’t know. My family is here and I know the vast majority will not fly to England (it will basically just be my parents, my brother and two best friends and their partners – maybe an aunt and uncle) so we had decided it made more sense to wed here and then do a recption there. My Fiance though wants to now stage a second wedding in the UK for his grandmother after the one here and says if his parents are paying for it anyway why not? I kinda agree but also feel like the second one won’t be as special. Am I just being crazy? I mean is he right like why not just have two weddings?
Also the timing is the question. We wanted to wed end of September 2018 and the plan was to have that one here then go on a two month road trip for our honeymoon and then have a second wedding/reception in the UK in December. However I just realized that his brother is a teacher and has kids so it will be hard for him to fly here at that time. So now we are thinking either September in the UK (so that will be the real wedding) and just have a reception here afterwards (either October or December after road trip) or move the one here to August 2018 so that will be the real wedding and “wed” after in the UK in September and then honeymoon after both weddings.
Any suggestions? I never knew this would be so complicated. Also how weird is doing two full weddings? Can I ask my friends to come to both? Thanks!