Two Weddings When and Where??

posted 3 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
1365 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

I swear I feel like I already commented on this a few weeks ago, but there are no responses. Maybe it was a different situation of Canadians and an aunt/grandma in the UK….

Post # 4
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Have 2 weddings, and time them when your most important family members can make it. Pick one date for you guys to call it your real wedding date. (DH and I got married at city hall, then had a religious family-only wedding 1 month laterm then a friends’ party even later. We go by the religious date). Both will be special.

Post # 5
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We’re having two weddings as well. I’m from the US and a Christian background while Fiance is from Uruguay and a Jewish background, and we’re having one in the states and one (with a Jewish Chuppa) in Uruguay later this year. For his family, this is not strange at all since in most of LAtin America you have to have a “civil” ceremony by a judge before you’re legally allowed to have your religious one. The rabbi/priest/etc. is required to see a civil marriage certificate before performing a ceremony. So for them, we’re just having an elaborate American “civil”and then a Jewish ceremony in Uruguay.

This works for us, for our families, friends, our cultural expectations, etc. You’ve just got to do what works for you and what you are comfortable with. However, I would caution against calling one a “real wedding” and talking about “staging” a second wedding. 

Our guest lists for each event are a bit different, but our best friends and all of our family (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.)  are invited to both events. Many of them thankfully are making the effort to come to both! You’ve got to do what works for you and your relationships. Happy to commiserate about double/international wedding planning anytime!

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