Two year engagement

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’ve been engaged for just over 1 year now, and we only just recently booked our venue and date for Sept 16th 2018 so our engagement will be just over 2 years. It’s a lot to plan and I want to do a bunch of DIY stuff so for us, it works.

Post # 17
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70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I got engaged June 2017 and the wedding is booked for September 21st, 2019. At first I thought a 2 year engagement was a long period of time. However, when we went to go book our venue for September 2018, the dates were already gone. So we didn’t have a choice because we particularly wanted September. We have since booked our photographer, limo and DJ. I am happy we are having a two year engagement and booked those things early because we locked in 2017 pricing for a 2019 date. We also know what the big costs are and can budget for those. We’ve been taking a break from planning and I’ve just been gathering ideas for now. I would definitely recommend a 2 year engagement. It will fly by. 

Post # 18
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1898 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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adventureready :  We will be engaged 20 months. I did a lot of my big things right away, then there was a lul. To everyone else, I have been engaged FOREVER. Now that it is almost here (43 days, eeee!) I cant believe how fast it feels!

Post # 19
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1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Our engagement ended up being close to 2.5 years. We were also LDR, he was in the military stationed far away, and I was finishing school. He knew we wouldn’t be able to get married for a bit but he just felt like it was time to be engaged. I did not start planning seriously until probably 1.5 years before the wedding. And even that far out helped because we locked in a price for my photographer and saved $600. Some vendors seemed very shocked that I was planning so early, but it’s a good way to get cheaper prices.

Post # 20
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1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Our engagement is a little over 2 years. It still feels like it’s taking forever to get here. It gives me a lot of time to research vendors, and for us to make decisions. Although I’m impatient, I hope to allieviate the stress of planning by having a long time to plan.

Like  kkiel  said, it’s nice to be able to watch for sales and save a little money.

Post # 21
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831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Our official engagement is only 16 months, but we had the venue booked 2 years in advance.  So it was kind of an unofficial 2 year engagement lol.  Even though we weren’t engaged we started planning all of the big stuff.  It was great becasue we got our first choice of all the vendors since we were so far ahead of everyone else.  By the time we actually got engaged we already had the venue, caterer, photographer, videographer, dj, rentals, and a few other small things.  It was a little unconventional but I’m so glad we did.  Having that extra time has really made the whole process less stressful.  We also like that we have extra time to pay for everything!  So I say go for it!!!

Post # 22
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2697 posts
Sugar bee

2 years is fine, although I think it’s a little longer than typical or average.

 Also, I know a lot of couples who wound up having an 18 – 24 month engagement for no other reason than they didn’t realize how quickly their preferred venue booked up!  

Post # 23
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467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Our engagement is going to be at least 2 years, possibly closer to 2.5, for several reasons and this thread is making me feel even better about it than I already did! It’s what’s right for us. 

Post # 24
Hostess
1717 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Congratulations on your engagement!

We had a fairly long engagement too. Somewhere around a year and a half. We bought a house right after getting engaged, were planning to pay for our wedding ourselves, and I was traveling a lot for my job at that time. The long engagement worked out well for us, and we were able to negotiate some discounts by booking so far in advance. We started planning and booking things about 16 months before the wedding. 

Post # 25
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288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

We were engaged a total of 2 years and 11 months lol. I had started to plan our intimate wedding when we were about a year and some change away and then we just decided to elope instead. I say enjoy each and every aspect of your relationship and why not get a head start of planning out your special day? That way you have a solid idea of what you want and things are less stressful for you.

Post # 26
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506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Our engagement is 2 years 1 month.  I definitely don’t think it’s too long.  We spent the first few months just enjoying being engaged, figuring out what we wanted in a wedding, what our budget was going to be, and if we were getting any help from our family.  About 18 months out we booked the venue and DJ (still looking for a photographer, so if anyone in the southern CT area has recommendations I’d appreciate it), and have started doing the detail work.  

I think that it’s nice to have the time to save money, and to buy things as they go on sale, rather than having to buy things right away.

Post # 27
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960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

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adventureready :  I had a two year engagement and wouldn’t have it any other way. However, I’ll admit I didn’t do anything wedding related until like the year mark. 

Post # 28
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180 posts
Blushing bee

After researching honeymoons and the cost,.. we decided to save the wedding  for when we are closer having enough savings for our honeymoon.

It will take us two years to save up enough, So our engagement will be two years long 😀

As much as I would want to rush our wedding since it will just be at the courthouse,.. Id rather get married closer to us being able to go away, so the newlywed magic will not be loss.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  endlessloop. Reason: EDIT: so you are not alone!!
Post # 29
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74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

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adventureready :  I’m in almost this exact situation! Long distance relationship and getting engaged soon, with a plan for a 2 year engagement (he’s finishing school, I’m starting law school next fall). we possibly will get to close the distance gap earlier but wanted a buffer between his graduation and our wedding to allow for any hiccups in school/allow for him to have time to get a job! The big difference is that as soon as we’re engaged we’re going to have to get started planning, because I refuse to plan during my first year of law school lol. So I say go for it! As long as you know what date you want and stuff, vendors shouldn’t care, they’ll book you! Also, as one person above said, you get a chance to really nab sales for decor, and even plan your bridesmaid dress shopping around sales, and then get a chance to do sample sales for your dress! You can save a lot of money that way, for both you and your people. Congratulations, and have fun planning! 

 

Also, I HIGHLY recommend getting the “a practical wedding” book by Meg Keene, as well as her planner. It’s the best. 

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