Post # 1
We are almost finished writting our thank you cards but have a few left to write. Two of the cards got separated from their gifts while transporting from the venue to our home (these cards were not in the card box so we are pretty sure these people got us a gift). We also have 3 gifts that did not have cards attached. I am assuming two of those came from people we have cards from with no gift, but I have no idea who gave what or who gave the third gift. Should we talk to the people we have cards from but no gift to find out what they gave so that we can mention it specifically in the Thank You, or would you just write a general “Thank you for your generous gift” note?
Post # 3
@STBSchmidt: Wouldn’t you like to know what these people gave you?
Traditionally a wedding gift is given with the intent that you will at least occasionally think of the giver in passing when you use the gift. (Particularlly if the giver is especially close to you!) I’d contact the card senders and explain the situation.
Give them a call, thank them for the card and well wishes, and tell them what happened – “during trasportation we had a few cards fall off gifts that were delivered at the wedding. Your card is, unfortunately one of the orphaned cards. I really appreciate all the generous gifts and well wishes we recieved, so I just am following up to make sure that I will always know which one came from you.” (Or something like that.)
That’s what I’d do at least… Good luck!
Post # 4
@STBSchmidt: I would do a general thank you for it unless its something really expensive. Its just a few gifts I personally would not call people up about writing a thank you card. I would write something like this: It was great to see you at the wedding thank you so much for your lovely gift.
Post # 5
Were they registry gifts? Can you call the store and ask who purchased them? I know Macy’s will tell you who bought something–you can even check yourself on their online registry.
Post # 6
has given you the correct advice. It would be lazy to just give a general thank-you. If you don’t mention the specific gift, the people are likely to think that you never received it.
It’s easy enough to make 2 phone calls to the people who signed the cards.That way you will have narrowed down the problem to one unidentified gift giver. For the remaining gift, I would hope that it is something from the registry.
Post # 7
What does she do about the third gift, the one with no card at all?
We had that problem, too, and I’m still trying to figure out how to identify the gift-giver.
Post # 9
There was another post recently about unidentified gifts. A bee made a great suggestion re wording to use when phoning guests to see if they might have been the source of a particular gift. It was so well worded that there would be little risk of offending someone who had not, in fact given a gift.
Post # 10
Ooh, thank you. I’ll try to see if I can track that down. 🙂