(Closed) TY card etiquette?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@STBSchmidt: Wouldn’t you like to know what these people gave you?

Traditionally a wedding gift is given with the intent that you will at least occasionally think of the giver in passing when you use the gift.  (Particularlly if the giver is especially close to you!)  I’d contact the card senders and explain the situation.

Give them a call, thank them for the card and well wishes, and tell them what happened – “during trasportation we had a few cards fall off gifts that were delivered at the wedding.  Your card is, unfortunately one of the orphaned cards.  I really appreciate all the generous gifts and well wishes we recieved, so I just am following up to make sure that I will always know which one came from you.”  (Or something like that.)

 

That’s what I’d do at least…  Good luck! 

Post # 4
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1748 posts
Bumble bee

@STBSchmidt: I would do a general thank you for it unless its something really expensive. Its just a few gifts I personally would not call people up about writing a thank you card. I would write something like this: It was great to see you at the wedding thank you so much for your lovely gift.

Warmest Regards,

Soladylike

Post # 5
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Were they registry gifts? Can you call the store and ask who purchased them? I know Macy’s will tell you who bought something–you can even check yourself on their online registry.

Post # 6
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47203 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@UmbrellaMoon: has given you the correct advice. It would be lazy to just give a general thank-you. If you don’t mention the specific gift, the people are likely to think that you never received it.

It’s easy enough to make 2 phone calls to the people who signed the cards.That way you will have narrowed down the problem to one unidentified gift giver. For the remaining gift, I would hope that it is something from the registry.

Post # 7
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13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

What does she do about the third gift, the one with no card at all?

We had that problem, too, and I’m still trying to figure out how to identify the gift-giver.

Post # 8
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4371 posts
Honey bee

nm

Post # 9
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47203 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Gemstone: There was another post recently about unidentified gifts. A bee made a great suggestion re wording to use when phoning guests to see if they might have been the source of a particular gift. It was so well worded that there would be little risk of offending someone who had not, in fact given a gift.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper

@julies1949: Ooh, thank you. I’ll try to see if I can track that down. 🙂

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