Post # 1
So, my venue is awesome and only has one real downside– they actually stick to a 4 hour time slot to include ceremony, cocktail hour, and dinner reception. We were going to add an hour, but we found that would cost about $700, and that seems crazy to us.
Our ceremony is at 7pm (late, I know. We didn’t have an option…)
The cocktail hour will be 7:30-8:30 (personally, I hate these and never wanted one, but we have to have one because the ceremony and reception are in the same room)
So the reception starts at 8:30pm. We’re having a plated dinner and a beer and wine bar for 70 guests.
My question is this: How the heck do we fit everything (the toasts, dances, cake cutting…) in before 11:00 rolls around? Any ideas for timelines? We’re doing a first dance, father daughter dance, no mother/son dance. And, unfortunately, at least 8 people want to give toasts.
We’ve been toying with the idea of an “after party” at a a daquiri bar within walking distance, but I think that’s kinda lame. And it’ll be our wedding night.
Thank you for any ideas!!
Post # 3
You will have to have a daquiri party because, I’m sorry to say, and I’m just being honest you won’t get through it all. We started at 6 and were done with everything at 9:30 and we only had 3 toasts which were each under 2 minutes. We didn’t do a lot of the traditional things either (bouquet toss, garter, etc)
Post # 4
@mwitter80: I agree, that’s an awful lot to fit in and probably won’t happen. With cocktail hour at 7:30-8:30 pm, I would almost skip the dinner altogether. Some guests may even eat before they come if the ceremony doesn’t start until 7 pm. Can you eliminate the dinner and just have a cocktail hour and then lead right into the reception?
Post # 4
I think the 700 is worth it at this point. I really do because it would really suck to look back and feel more rushed and crazy than your wedding already will.
Oherwise I would do all the dances and speaches while people are waiting for food and being served. Make sure to work it out with the venue to serve food etc despite what is going on on the dance floor. Otherwise there will be no “fun time”
Post # 5
Here is the timeline for our reception:
0:00 – Reception begins
0:05 – Briddal party is introduced
0:10 – Bride and Groom cut the cake
0:15 – Bride and Groom have first dance
0:20 – Toasts and Blessing
0:30 – Salad Course
0:45 – Entree
1:10 – Cake
1:15 – Mother/Son, Father/Daughter Dances
1:25 – Open Dancing until the reception ends
Post # 6
I dont agree – i think you can get though it all – we did we started at 6 and ended at 9:30 – we extended an hour but just for dancing – we finished everything prior to 9:30
i just pulled out my venue invoice
6:00 doors open, intros
6:10 first dance
6:15 Welcome( by my husband and me -short thank yous for coming, not really a speech), blessing (by the priest) and dinner is served
We did Toasts while everyone was eating their salad – we only had 2, best mand and Maid/Matron of Honor and they were pretty short.
6:45 ( i think people were still eating) we did the father daughter, mother son dances
7:00 cut the cake
7:15 Anniversary dance
7:20 dancing ensued
8:15: Garter and Bouquet toss
after that we danced all night!
Post # 7
This includes the ceremony too, right?
So I am getting you have exactly 2.5 hours for dinner and dancing and everything else.
Post # 8
@kessyud: How many people, because its such a short time for your courses, that if its a large reception not even everyone could be served that fast.
Post # 9
double it, just a little bit.
Post # 10
Here’s what you’ll do if you don’t want to add an hour:
Ceremony at 7 (make SURE you start on time)
Cocktail Reception 7:30-8 (assuming they can flip the room in time)
First dance & toasts to 8:15
Dinner service (on average will go to 9:45)
Cake Cutting, Parent Dances
That will leave you with 1 hour of dancing..
Do your cake cutting once about 75% of the room has been cleared after dinner. Not everyone will come and watch that anyway and you may save about 10 minutes.
If yu have a partying crowd or one that likes to dance – you may want to rethink that $700.