Post # 1
I was planning on my bachelorette party being very relaxed and just having some friends over for food and games (taboo, apples to apples, etc) the night before or weekend before the wedding. My friends and I aren’t big partiers and most of us don’t drink at all, so I just wanted to keep it relaxed. I feel like I had enough single fun so I’m not too worried about having a big send off. One of my close friends had a bachelorette party like that and it was seriously the most I’ve ever laughed probably in my life.
Well this week one of my bridesmaids said something about how she was so excited for my bachelor party, and I basically said why it’s not going to be a big deal. Well she was completely put out and was like no we should go to Chicago (5 hour drive) and stay in a hotel and go out dancing. That sounds unbelievably stressful to me. I’m not someone that travels well, and even though we could get a great deal on the hotel and stuff I just don’t see myself having a crazy go out of town bachelor party. I don’t even want to go out dancing in Cincinnati, let alone Chicago. I just am not that into it. I want my bachelor party to be COMPLETELY chill because I would like to focus on enjoying time with my friends, so going to a club where we can’t even talk to each other.
Am I being lame? Or am I just being reasonable? How do I break this to my bridesmaid? I’m hoping she just forgets because she’s pregnant and she’ll be having a baby before the wedding, but if she doesn’t how do I let her down easy?
Post # 3
It’s not lame at all… to each their own.
I went on a bachloretter party once where the bride-to-be never ever drank. I was a friend of hers, but had no part in the planning process or was apart of the wedding – so I went with the flow. We ended up going to various clubs where the drinks flowed, the music was loud, etc… the bride-to-be did not have a good time. I felt so bad… I wish someone close to her would’ve picked a party more suited for her. That’s who were are there to celebrate and it didn’t seem to matter to the others.
It got to the point in the night that she would slide her drinks/shots to me on the sly or we would exchange in the bathroom… I drink but I would never impose that on someone else. I was glad I was able to help her out.
I plan on doing the same thing you’re doing, as all of my friends are scattered between 3 different states. It will be a nice night to bring everyone back together and enjoy the evening without drunken fights and hangovers. lol.
Hope everything turns out! 😀
Post # 4
I say do what you want to do, especially if you are having it the night before the wedding, and even if it is the weekend before. I would just let her know that you appreciate the thought, but that you would rather have everyone over for a relaxing night. Ask her if she can bring a game that she would think everyone would like to play or a favorite snack she wants to bring so she can feel like she is in on some of the planning of it.
Post # 5
Maybe suggest that Chicago weekend for a different occasion? Maye you could help plan a birthday trip her the girl who suggeested it? I bet she just really wants to go do that and I bet you would be happier to go with the flow if it was for her celebration instead of yours. You could tell her that you already had an idea of what you want for your party but ask if you could help her plan the big Chicago trip as a weekend celebration for her… everyone wins!