(Closed) Ugggh, I’m so TIRED of waiting!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2547 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I hope it comes soon. While, I have never, nor will ever experience your situation, I understand how you must be feeling. Hang in there!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Elleymae: I am not your age but I do have a timeline I want for myself… I want to be married for a couple of years and enjoy each other and travel a bit and then have a chile at 29 or so…  and I am having a very hard time right now too because it is really hard to keep my mouth shut. I had done it since January until he started brining it up, and lately he has been brining it up a lot more.. saying his co-workers know and his boss knows that he is going to do it… so do it already !!!   ahhhh

Post # 5
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Helper bee

**hugs** I don’t have much advice for your nor am I your age but I can only imagine how you’re feeling. I’m in my late 20’s and already have one child (previous relationship) and I didn’t want a huge age gap but it looks like I’m going to get one. We had a long talk about a week ago and got everthing out so I’ve vowed to be quiet until he proposes or my deadline (3 1/2 months away). It’s hard too like PP said when they keep bringing it up. SO is now so open with talking about things he wants for us when we get married, continues to apologize for the waiting, etc. After 9 months he FINALLY gets it *I Think* and understands the stress the waiting has had me under mentally. He could see it over the last nine months but I think now it’s clicked. I hope so. At least he acts like it has. My thing is I hope he gets it together before time runs out. More **hugs** for you!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Yep, I’m 33, I totally understand.  Although I don’t want more kids (I have a 12 year old), I still didn,t want to wait forever.

(((hugs))) of encouragement.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

@Elleymae: I TOTALLY feel you. I waited and was very antsy he didn’t bring it up at all. It made me even more upset because I felt like he wasn’t ready, didn’t  care, etc. And although I’m still waiting I’m now in a calmer place. Yet now he does bring it up and talk more openly about it but part of me wants him to stop until he PUTS A RING ON IT! It’s annoying when you’re not engaged yet in my opinon so be careful what you wish for. It’s definitely catch 22. I just don’t want to get antsy again and go back into the depressing/sad/angry waiting stages again. It really put a damper on our relationship. I feel like now he knows how feel and what I want; I’ve heard his point of view and side of the story. Now it’s walk the walk instead of talk the talk. Actions speak louder than words. Propose! and we can talk about things surrounding weddings and being married all you want.

Post # 9
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1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah, I know exactly how you feel.  I’ll be 32 this month and this waiting is killing me.  I do not have any children either. Yesterday I had a meltdown so I’m going to keep my mouth shut as well.  It’s going to be hard!! Hope we all get our proposals soon!!  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just wanted to offer you some encouragement! You can definitely keep going! 19 days is a long time, but also only just over 2 weeks. It takes 3 weeks to make a habit, so get to that 21 day mark! You can totally do it. 🙂

Post # 11
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

Hugs! I understand. I’ll be 30 next week and although I am excited to be 30, I do want that marriage to come sooner than later.

Post # 12
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

19 days!  I’m impressed 🙂 I can usually only last a couple without bringing something up haha!

 

Hang in there…sounds like it’s coming SOON!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Wow, 19 days! That’s great! I’m doing good with being proud for my 6 days of being quiet! It’s taking every ounce of energy I have. 🙁

Good luck girl!

Post # 14
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

19 days is great!

I’m on day 11 myself and it is tough! Boyfriend wonders why I’m chewing my lips and giving him Wallace and Gomit smiles all the time.

Hopefully not talking about it will become a habit and get easier. Good luck!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Elleymae: I can TOTALLY empathize.  Being 33 myself, I never thought I be in this position.  Like most women, I had a plan.  Married by 25, enjoy married life for a couple of years, first kid by 30, etc.  And even though I am still on the fence about having kids, I don’t want the option to pass me by because he couldn’t shit or get off the pot.  And I don’t want to have kids without being married first (just a personal preference).

Stay strong and start doing things on your own or that make YOU happy.  Hope he comes around soon.

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