Post # 1
I’m about a week out from the wedding and if I hear one more person say ‘soooooo, the big day is almost here! Are you nervous?’
no. I’m excited. Apparently this isn’t an acceptable answer..
I just looooove how people have to tell me
-If i’m not nervous yet, just wait, I will be
-Wait until the day before, then you’ll really know stress
-That my family is all going to fight and come close to never speaking again because of a wedding
Did it ever occur to anyone that we are happy, excited, and enjoying this whole wedding planning process?
Post # 3
I got that question a lot, especially from my mother. It irritated me, because it felt like people expected me to be nervous and I wasn’t. I was just excited!
Post # 4
hahaha i HATED that “are you nervous”? um about what? i mean really?
yeah – just wait til all of those “are you nervous?” questions turn into “so how’s married life?” ugh! lol
Post # 5
LOL, everyone pretty much asked about the same thing as the wedding date approached. i was irritated at first, but got numb 😛
Post # 6
@JuneBride_26June2010: SO true. I would take “Are you nervous” over “hows married life?” ANY DAY. The nervous question is easy to answer because I would say “No, not yet” or “No, im just really excited” and then it was over. But the “hows married life” question is just ridiculous because people think youre going to have some crazy answer…when in fact married life is mostly the same!!!
Post # 7
I think people just feel they have to say something and expect you to be nervous as the day gets closer. I think every bride has some amount of nerves on the big day and thats why people ask that question. I doubt they mean any harm, or realize that everyone else is asking the exact same question.
Post # 8
I feel bad, I am so guilty of the “how’s married life” question… Lately on the boards people have been complaining about this, so I guess I will have to try to stop!!
Post # 9
@bells: You’re right. However, it’s reallllly annoying! (that’s why this is called a vent)
You could just say ‘the big day is coming up soon! I heard the weather is going to be great (or) you must be looking forward to it (or) any last minute stuff you are working on etc.
Post # 10
@OttawaBride2011: Before I was married Im sure I asked this question. I honestly never realized how annoying it is. But honestly every.single.person. asks you this question and it gets really old.
And I agree with @brisebride: that there are SO many other things you can ask before the wedding and after!!
Post # 11
I think it’s really presumptuous and rude for people to tell you how you’ll feel on your wedding day just because they felt that way. And, people always ask these questions…
1. “How’s planning?”
no one really wants to hear “well, I booked the venue but we’re having issues with some of their restrictions, like they won’t allow us to put flower petals on the floor.” They want to hear “Great!”
2. “So are you nervous?”
Honestly, I would just throw up a big blunt “No!” here.
3. Immediately following ceremony: “So when are you having kids?”
Seriously? I just made one big life decision and now you’d like another?
aaand the famous 4: “How’s married life?”
fine. awesome. amazing. not important to your daily life.
I know it’s people’s intention to just chat and talk about what’s going on in my life, but dang. those four are the worst offenders on the list of wedding questions,
Post # 12
@OttawaBride2011: Me too! I always ask “Hows married life” I just feel i have to acknowlege that they just got married. I didnt even realize it bothered people. I also ask “how plannings going” and” are your nervous”. I’m a repeat offender. I guess cos these questions dont bother me, I didnt realize they bothered other people.
Post # 13
@eliwhit: I got every one of those too! I would be shocked to find out if there was a bride that did not get asked all 4 of these questions at some point in time!
Post # 14
Funny, I usually ask “are you excited?!” (yeah I know, it’s a stupid question, really) and usually get “I’m actually kind of nervous!” (or variant). Maybe my friends enjoy being contrary.
Post # 15
@bells: The planning and nervous questions don’t bother me either!! I guess that’s why I didn’t realize I was annoying people 😛 Oh well!