(Closed) ugggh, shutup – vent

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I got that question a lot, especially from my mother. It irritated me, because it felt like people expected me to be nervous and I wasn’t. I was just excited!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

hahaha i HATED that “are you nervous”? um about what? i mean really?

yeah – just wait til all of those “are you nervous?” questions turn into “so how’s married life?” ugh! lol

Post # 5
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1020 posts
Bumble bee

LOL, everyone pretty much asked about the same thing as the wedding date approached. i was irritated at first, but got numb 😛

Post # 6
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@JuneBride_26June2010: SO true. I would take “Are you nervous” over “hows married life?” ANY DAY. The nervous question is easy to answer because I would say “No, not yet” or “No, im just really excited” and then it was over. But the “hows married life” question is just ridiculous because people think youre going to have some crazy answer…when in fact married life is mostly the same!!!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think people just feel they have to say something and expect you to be nervous as the day gets closer. I think every bride has some amount of nerves on the big day and thats why people ask that question. I doubt they mean any harm, or realize that everyone else is asking the exact same question.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I feel bad, I am so guilty of the “how’s married life” question… Lately on the boards people have been complaining about this, so I guess I will have to try to stop!!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@OttawaBride2011: Before I was married Im sure I asked this question. I honestly never realized how annoying it is. But honestly every.single.person. asks you this question and it gets really old.

And I agree with @brisebride: that there are SO many other things you can ask before the wedding and after!!

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think it’s really presumptuous and rude for people to tell you how you’ll feel on your wedding day just because they felt that way. And, people always ask these questions…

1. “How’s planning?”

no one really wants to hear “well, I booked the venue but we’re having issues with some of their restrictions, like they won’t allow us to put flower petals on the floor.” They want to hear “Great!”

2. “So are you nervous?” 

Honestly, I would just throw up a big blunt “No!” here. 

3. Immediately following ceremony: “So when are you having kids?”

Seriously? I just made one big life decision and now you’d like another?

aaand the famous 4: “How’s married life?” 

fine. awesome. amazing. not important to your daily life.

 

I know it’s people’s intention to just chat and talk about what’s going on in my life, but dang. those four are the worst offenders on the list of wedding questions,

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@OttawaBride2011: Me too! I always ask “Hows married life” I just feel i have to acknowlege that they just got married. I didnt even realize it bothered people. I also ask “how plannings going” and” are your nervous”. I’m a repeat offender. I guess cos these questions dont bother me, I didnt realize they bothered other people.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@eliwhit: I got every one of those too! I would be shocked to find out if there was a bride that did not get asked all 4 of these questions at some point in time!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Funny, I usually ask “are you excited?!” (yeah I know, it’s a stupid question, really) and usually get “I’m actually kind of nervous!” (or variant). Maybe my friends enjoy being contrary.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@bells: The planning and nervous questions don’t bother me either!! I guess that’s why I didn’t realize I was annoying people 😛 Oh well!

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