Post # 1
So like I have mentioned in my previous post my Maid/Matron of Honor decided that she wanted nothing to do with me or my wedding simply because I talk about it to much! So while my fiancé and his best man are busy planning his bachelor party I was busy canceling mine. I have just been so upset with all the drama that my ex-MOH caused and the thought of her not being there that I just gave up hope on any party. I said something to one of my BM’s about the bridal shower and not having a bachelorette party and she asked for my list for the bridal sohower. I gave it to her but I am still just not really into it because of everything else going on. I feel so selfish because I want the bachelor party and the bridal shower.. I am only getting married once and I wanted to do everything wedding related but I wanted to share this with my best friend. I am so upset that my she (ex-moh) isn’t going to be a part of all of this. I am happy for my fiancé and don’t really care that he is having a bachelor party but I hate hearing him talk about it because then I just feel even more upset about not having a bachelorette party. Did anyone else go through anything like this?
Post # 3
Sad. 🙁 I’m sorry you’re going through all this, but alas, c’est la vie…
Maybe talk to your other bridesmaids or your mother about helping you plan something? I know it’s against “etiquette” to be involved in your own showers and parties, but when your Maid/Matron of Honor quits…uh, I think that gives you a pretty darn good excuse to be involved. Hahaha.
Instead of a regular bachelorette party, you could now consider a spa getaway or a cabin retreat with your ladies, or something like that.
I hope you get it all worked out! Best of luck. xo
Post # 4
@MrsUNClover: Just a thought, and you and your Fiance may not be comfortable with this, and that’s ok, but what about combining parties?
That’s what Fiance and I are doing. We’re renting a party bus and going out bar hopping with all of our friends, after an excellent dinner at a reasonably nice and fun restaraunt that is. It just made sense for us since over the course of our relationship his friends have become my friends and mine have become his. And many of his male friends live out of town, so he probably wouldn’t have much of a party, and all of my friends are men so mine wouldn’t be traditional anyway. Maybe in light of things your Fiance would be open to having you and your friends join him and his for one big, fun, pre-wedding night out.
Post # 5
What’s so exciting about getting hung over, rubbed up on by strippers and getting lots and lots of dildos and sex toys?
You can always throw your own bridal shower if you want one that terribly. No one is going to look down on you for it, and frankly, no one has to know.