(Closed) Ugghhh Fiances S.I.L. just called to say she found the dress … it’s champagne

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

 I’m sorry hun , I know it’s frustrating. I agree I probably wouldn’t say anything either

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I mind too but would never say anything either. That sucks. I kinda thoguht it was weird when two of my fi’s cousins wore entirely white outfits to my shower but I let it go obviously. I know someone will do it at our wedding too but there’s not much you can do. I just don’t understand what people don’t get about that being the ONE COLOR you should not wear ANY VERSION OF at someone else’s wedding!!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You won’t say anything…but rest assured that your guests will notice and they will say a few things bewtween themselves. And, she’s family, so this might get discussed behind her back for years to come. At the end of the day, its her that looks bad and not you. My wedding dress is champagne and you’re right, its not too far from white!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

If it makes you feel any better, more people will be thinking "what is wrong with this girl!?" than "oooh, look at her gorgeous dress". For the most part, people know you shouldn’t look remotely like you are in a wedding dress at someone else’s wedding!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Uh. Yeah. I was that girl. I wore ivory to my sister-in-law’s wedding. I honestly didn’t even think about it. I wish someone had said something to me! I hate looking at those pictures now.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Poor girl!  

But don’t worry, I’m sure that it wont take away from you at all.  I’m sure the other guests (who aren’t in the know about weddings) will not even notice.
 
Even if she is trying to compete with you it only makes her look like a jerk. 
 
But August15Bride makes a great point, she could be totally clueless (although if she were I don’t know why she’d call you to tell you the colour of her dress).  If you think this is the case maybe you should get a mutual friend or someone to slyly tell her that wearing champagne is a poor etiquette choice. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You’re handling this really well! If I were you, I’d probably ask my fiance to get his brother to tell her that wearing off white might not be very appreciated at a wedding. If anyone notices, they’ll empathize with you though so don’t worry!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

How frustrating!  You’re definitely handling it well by not saying anything (I know I would be tempted to say something, lol).  If it makes you feel any better, I’m sure most guests , if they notice, will think it a little strange that she’s wearing a practically white dress, and no one is going to mistake her for the bride, so not to worry! I totally could see how this would be majorly annoying though!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Is gold okay? I am going to a wedding and I own a gold/champagne dress. The bride’s wedding is two weeks before mine.

It’s gold…but light gold…knee length

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Dropping hints and making little p-a comments behind her back probably isn’t going to get you the outcome that you want…  If this is something that really bothers you deep down, and you don’t think you can let it go, I think you should address it directly with her.  Keep in mind, though, that she might not look too highly on someone trying to control what she’s wearing.  Good luck!

Post # 15
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Worker bee

Sometimes a champagne color is closer to a gold color, it really depends on the designer.  But do you really think she is doing this to upset you?  If so I am sorry she is being inconsiderate of your feelings.  But honestly you are the bride, everyone is coming to celebrate with you and your husband.  Concentrate on the love you’re there to celebrate and nothing else.  You don’t need any additional drama. 
  If it continues to bother you talk to her about it, she will be family after all. 
  Good luck 🙂

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know! It’s considered an ‘appropriate’ color to wear to a wedding… but bridal gowns come in champaigne, so…

If it’s really bothering you, tell your photographer to avoid getting pictures of her beyond the mandatory posed shots. Maybe just doing that will make you feel better about it.

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