(Closed) Ugghhh Fiances S.I.L. just called to say she found the dress … it’s champagne

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Ok, she got the dress from the same place you got your wedding dress from AND she’s trying to match the color of your dress? Wow…she’s really going to look like a fool. It does sound like she’s just trying to create drama to probably see how you’re going to react. I think you’re being extremely classy by holding your head high and not participating in the drama. Good for you!

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

Man, I’m sorry! The girl is married to your FI’s brother, that means she had a wedding herself and there is NO way she’s clueless about the faux pas. Jeez, that’s the one wedding rule I did know before getting engaged myself.

My guy’s SIL is pregnant (though not that far along…) and called to tell me she’ll be wearing ‘baggy jeans’ to be comfortable. She’s horrible too and has hated me since before she even met me, which hasn’t won her any favor in the family. Since she’s married to FI’s brother we are always being compared, and since she’s so mean it’s generally not in her favor. I bet your guests will all feel the same way. She’s the one being a jerk, so everyone will just be glad they’re getting a good in-law in you.

Post # 34
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

There are different versions of champagne as well, is she talking the really deep color?  I also have pictures from a wedding of a major faux paus!  I wore a very heavily embroidered but gorgeous gown.  I was 19 (ICK)…. I wish someone would have told me as well!

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m so sorry! I’m in the same boat….my SIL showed me her WHITE dress that she is wearing…..the worst part? It’s the exact same neckline as mine….front and back 🙁 …and she has 5" stillettos to go with it (remember, we are having a 20 person wedding in the country, and I don’t do heels…I’ll have ballet flats on). So, like you, I won’t say anything. But it does bug me!

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Is the dress a bridal gown or just a dress from a bridal store?  My mom and I looked at MOB dresses at the bridal store while we were waiting for my fitting and there were a lot of champagne dresses that were really closer to a gold color.  A few years ago I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my brothers wedding and our dresses were champagne and they honestly did not look like a shade of white. 

What color dress are you wearing?

Post # 37
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Blushing bee

both my mom and Mother-In-Law wore champagne dresses and i was fine with it. champagne is really more a goldy-brown color, not off-white. but that depends on who you ask i guess because i’ve never described off-white as champagne. have you seen her dress or are you over reacting over google photos? i’d see the dress first hand first before making any assumptions about the color and how she’s trying to compete with your dress.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You’re right — sooo weird. And incredibly rude, considering that she’s been a bride, and knows about the "white" drama. I’m glad you’re not going to say anything — she’ll look like that much more of a fool in front of everyone.

Post # 39
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Ugh, I can definitely see why you’re annoyed — my wedding dress is "champagne" and it’s pretty much cream-colored/off-white, definitely not a color I’d wear as a guest at a wedding.  Hopefully hers is more of a dark gold/tan, but it does kind of sound like she’s trying to cause drama — I would think that anyone who’s shopped for wedding dresses before  would know that "champagne" is a fairly typical color description for bridal dresses, and would say "gold" instead.

But I agree with the others who’ve said that, if it’s an inappropriate dress, she’ll be the one who looks bad! 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I have the same question as GabGal, is this the same SIL who FREAKED out over her own personal guest list?? I’d be about ready to disinvite her… seriously, she sounds like a total zero.

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think you should leak it thru the guys to then have them tell her. Is your FH suave? He could present it to his best man is a quizzical or joking manner, to have Bridesmaid or Best Man then bring it up. That way, if she’s clueless, she’ll know and change it (hopefully), if not change, then she just sucks. On the other hand, so what if she finds out you want her to change it. It’s really not cool. Ah well, you could just tell her flat out that it’s kinds close to your dress color and that you feel a little wierd.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am so sorry!  I put a post on here probably about three months ago of the dress my Future Mother-In-Law thinks she is going to wear and guess what = It is considered a wedding dress, champagne, also my color, strapless, mine is also strapless, long dress, mine too.  Let me know what happens because I am still waiting to confront my Future Mother-In-Law about this but I am waiting for about another month.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Ugh.  This would bother me a lot.  I hope the shade of champagne on the non-bride dresses is of a darker one.  I’d try to get someone to talk to her about her dress and find out the shade of the color (and if it’s close to white then say something to her) without her suspecting that it came from you.  I don’t know if I’d be able to sit absolutely still about it and just let her wear it.  Reminds me of my bro’s sister who seems to want to wear inappropriate attire to my wedding, too.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2021

When I think champagne, I think gold…like the color of champagne. I wouldn’t think that was trying to compete with you. Now, ivory or white is another story. Just be the bigger person!

Post # 46
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

3 girls wore white to my wedding… All looked absolutely beautiful, and none came even remotely close to upstaging me.  One is from Brazil, one is South Asian, and one just clueless.  I didn’t give any of it a second thought… but then again, everyone could have been wearing white and I wouldn’t have cared for a second, since I was on cloud 9!

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