(Closed) Ugghhh Stupid Facebook!! How to handle someone asking me via fb for invite?!?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you do about the person requesting an invite on facebook?
    Ignore the request : (71 votes)
    56 %
    Respond with a polite private message : (54 votes)
    43 %
    Other- Please explain below : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think this is where you use the Internet to completely ignore someone.  

    Post # 4
    667 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @peachacid dido

    Post # 5
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    what she (peachacid) said..If you plan on replying then you sound more obligated to get back in touch later and are you having a small wedding?

    Post # 6
    3501 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2002

    my EX BOYFRIENDs family keeps commenting on my facebook. out of the blue even ill get wall posts “im still waiting for my invite” or “i didnt get my save the date yet!”

    ARE YOU SERIOUS! whyyyyy would you want to come to my wedding? we havent talked in how long?! ive been apart from my ex for 3.5 years now!

    ive ignored them all.

    Post # 7
    11166 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I would not respond.

    I had this happen where a friend posted on my FB page that she hadn’t yet recieved an invite (because I didn’t send her one). She even began to make carpool plans with another friend that was going. I explained to the friend that was going that unfortunately we just didn’t have the space to invite everyone and I would appreciate it if she just didn’t encourage any plans. In the end the requests stopped coming but it was incredibly awkward for a while.

    Post # 8
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If you’re close enough to this girl that you feel it warrants a response, send a private message. I wouldn’t include anything about inviting her after RSVPs are in though. Just leave it at “we’re having a small wedding”. Otherwise, the situation could drag on.

    Post # 10
    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013



    Post # 11
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’d respond with a private message saying something like:  Hi!  It’s nice to hear from you!  Just wanted you to know that we are having a  small, intimate wedding.  We hope to have a larger, informal celebration at some point afterwards, which I will definitely invite you to, if it happens!  Hope all is well!

    (that’s assuming you even want to invite her to the larger gathering.  If not, ditch that sentence – you aren’t obligated to invite anyone (just because they invited you or feel close to you.)

    The only reason I say respond vs. say nothing is to avoid future questions from her about any other things you may post on FB.

    Post # 12
    999 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Don’t ignore…that’s a bit mean….respond….”Sorry, wish I can invite all friends but having a small wedding so keeping it strictly to a minimum”. Be nice. I’m sure they’ll understand.

    Plus if you dont want anyone inviting themselves, don’t post wedding stuff on facebook. You said it on your title….stupid facebook!!! LOL. I know your excited but when you post wedding plans on facebook it’s almost like your including all of them, letting them know, so ofcourse SOMEONE will want to invite themself. If you’re excited and need to post. Post it on weddingbee Smile.

    Post # 13
    3580 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @OmahaCupcake:  “I thought people weren’t supposed to ask for an invite?!? Now I feel like a jerk!!”  Weeeeellll, I also though we weren’t supposed to toot our own wedding horn on FB.  😉

    I like the private message idea, especially going with the ‘We hope to have a larger, informal celebration at some point afterwards, which I will definitely invite you to, if it happens!  Hope all is well!” note. 

    Post # 15
    3580 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @OmahaCupcake:  I’m guilty too!  I once complained about DIY projects on FB and went ‘bad girl, baaaaad!’.

    Post # 16
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Girl, post away about your wedding! – just because you post about your wedding doesn’t mean people have the right to invite themselves to your wedding!  Depending how close you are to this person, I’d just ignore it or just send a private message saying sorry we are having a small wedding. 

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