(Closed) Ugh!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i have a small ring too and i hated that people would make faces and rude comments about my ring. hopefull things will get better. its not the size of the rock that matters but that they love eachother and that they are happy.

Post # 5
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355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is sooo crazy… do people not realize that it wasn’t even that long ago that people did not even use engagement rings or diamonds…. you can google research on that and maybe tell your friend about it.  I always tell people that my investment will be in my marriage and not the ring… so sad people think like that. I mean there is nothing wrong with having a large stone… I just think it’s sad that there are a few people out there that put soooo much emphasis on it…. I mean if your Fiance beat you but gave you a 4.0 carat center stone does that make the beating part ok?? LOL

Post # 8
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158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I had this problem not because of the ring size but because of the jewel. I am not a big diamond fan and so I got got a pretty nice amethyst ring instead from the 1920s. It is a pretty good size but the first thing my friend (so called) said was “Oh thats pretty. So I guess he was too cheap to buy a diamond.”

Post # 10
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@casteel_dream:

Unbelievable!

@Tuesdayschild:

I thought your post was going to be about your 2 carat ring being too small for your circle of friends. 2 Carats for me might as well be 10 carats!

Tell your friend that my ring is 1/4 caratt and I love it. When we are driving and Darling Husband says “put that thing away, you’re blinding me!” I have to laugh but admire the sparkle just as much as if it were 10 carats. (He’s joking of course, by the way, but I love how he notices).

What I loved most about this post was the story behind your firiend and her new fiance’s love. THAT is what is amazing. The 24 year olds who don’t know true love think it resides in an expensive jewlerry but tangewaysherewecome: was spot on. We don’t know what happens behind closed doors and a man’s heart is in his chest not in the diamond.

(I also have no problem with large stones. I am reacting to your story and it’s just plain ridiculous. Give your friend a hug for me!)

Post # 11
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224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have a smaller ring as well and I even picked it out!  My fiance was in grad school when he bought it and couldn’t spend alot.  And besides at the end of they day, it’s not about the size of the rock, but about the amount of love that is shared between you and your SO!  (Cheesy, I know, but so true!)

Post # 14
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1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have a small ring and we bought it second hand and I LOVE it! You should see people’s faces when I tell them we bought it used. Who cares, it was almost new, I love it and we got it for less than half the price! And even though it is small the sparkle is large!

Post # 15
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Just_Squeeze: True love doesn’t reside in expensive jewlery I like that one! Haven’t come across this situation, but now I have a line to use if I ever do:)

Post # 16
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247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, people are morons. I have a complicated relationship with the whole diamond ring thing anyway (what with being a queer feminist), so I told my fiance I didn’t want a stone. He got me a silver band–it’s beautiful and I like it, but people definitely react poorly to it.

My sister in particular said she didn’t see the point of having an engagement ring without a stone. She said, “People are going to think it’s your wedding ring,” and I was like, yeah, but who cares? What does it matter? What matters is that I’m marrying the love of my life.

Scientific research (well, semi-scientific, I wouldn’t put TOO much stock in it) shows that people who choose rings with the flashiest cuts of diamonds are the most likely to get divorced, anyway.

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