Post # 1
I swear this whole getting married thing has turned me into a drama queen lol. I didnt actually realize I even wanted to get married until the end of july. I duscussed this with so and explained I want to get married in two years. he just caved and said yes, if it would make me happy. So a month goes by and I start wondering if he just agreed to it to shut me up. So discussion number two takes place and I ask him if he felt like i cornered him on the subject when i brought it up. he just replied “not at all” , and so I left it at that. the last week thoughts of an engagement swimming in my head , I finally looked at him tonight and said ” so ? are u going to ask me to marry you in the new year ?” and he just smiled and said ” why are you so worried about it? ” to which i got defensive and said ‘ Is that a no ?” and he said ” I didnt say no” ..
thing is, he didnt say yes either lol . ugh ! he’s not the type to entertain the idea of doing something he was opposed to. But what gives ? why does he have to be so nonchalant .. 🙁 .. I hope this loses urgency for me. I’m stressed out.
Post # 3
well, I know what you mean, far too well… :O
We as waiting bees have been there or still there at one point in the waiting period…
Post # 6
Oh the Joys of Waiting! Yeah, we’re all in the same boat. Most likely he wants to surprise you! Also, be aware that you have no control over when he will ask you unless you give him a timeline or ultimatum. It really sucks… You could ask him though. I toyed with the idea and he shot me down, basically telling me that it’s the “man’s job” to ask. :/ Sorry I’m not more help. But I SO feel your frustration 😀
Post # 4
I know how you feel. You want certainty it will happen. Just tell him that you just want reassurance that you guys are going in th same direction/path and that if he has any doubts or questions to talk to you. That this is a joint effort between the TWO OF YOU.
Post # 5
… perhaps because he wants to surprise you. Often that’s the mans intention.
Post # 7
I am a bit confused as to what you want him to say. You mentioned that you JUST started thinking about marriage and explained you wanted to get married in the next two years. Why do you keep pushing the topic? It’s not like he is going to tell you the exact date he is going to propose!! He hears you, and it doesn’t seem like he is against it in anyway…you just need to trust that it will happen and give him some space,,, the more you push the more pressure he will feel and it may turn into some bigger issue than it really needs to be.