Post # 1
Today has been a terrible waiting day!!! Everybody and their grandma is getting engaged, and it’s only going to get worse with the holidays coming. I tried dropping hints, but i’m driving myself crazy. P.S- boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage because the government tax married people more. Really!? And with me finishing up my wedding planner certification it’s getting worse…. ugh
That is all rant over
Post # 3
@ktcheer09: awe sending you a huge hug!! sometimes waiting is so tough! I have been finding that everyone is getting engaged on my facebook and it makes it hard! Hopefully your SO comes around 🙂
Post # 4
maybe you really need to have a conversation with him to find out if he ever plans to. Let him know how you feel about really wanting to get married and that you want to spend your life with him and ask him how he feels. I waited a very long time too and my fiance just was never ready to until last year. It killed me the whole time but I talked to him about it and he told me he did want to marry me but I would have to wait till he got more situated in life and I did.
Post # 5
@ktcheer09: Ugh, I know how you feel. Someone posted on facebook the other day that their fiance is the best fiance ever (in an attention seeking way). I immediately thought “no, mine is” then I remembered I have a boyfriend, not a fiance. UGH
If your SO doesn’t believe in marriage as you say, do you think that he’ll ever propose? It seems like marriage means a lot to you but not to him. Maybe you should have a discussion about that.
Post # 6
@kalyn.davies we did have a conversation ,and he told me that he does believe in marriage. BUT he said ” he don’t want the government in his vbusiness, and in The bible says marry “under God” nor the government”
@copperbird90- been there too! I mean I Hanna friend meet a guy in July, engaged last month, and now she wants me to help plan her wedding for next year
Post # 7
@ktcheer09: if you’re bf doesn’t believe in marriage why are you “waiting” for a proposal? Sounds like you need to accept being with him and not getting married or find a man who believes in marriage…
Post # 8
If he doesn’t believe in legalized marriage “under the government” (eyeroll), then what are you waiting for?
I would say this isn’t a bad waiting day… I would say it’s a good day to look at things clearly and make your OWN plans for YOUR own life. But then I couldn’t stay in a relationship with a guy who says he only believes in marriage “under God, not the government.”
He’s feeding you a line. Don’t take it!
Post # 10
Men that intend to marry you don’t have to hide behind statements like “he don’t want the Government in his business”. Instead, they are prepared to have sensible discussions about marriage even if you don’t necessarily get the answer you want right now. There’s nothing wrong with someone not being ready to get married (me and my DH were in mutual agreement about this until the time was right) but anyone unprepared to tackle the topic sensibly is almost certainly stringing you along.
Right now you aren’t “waiting” for anything all the while he’s not even prepared to consider the idea or give you a sensible answer why.
Post # 11
@ktcheer09: that’s a lame excuse that he’s giving! Tell him that you can be married and file your taxes separately
Honestly though, I think it might be time for a serious conversation, because he doesn’t seem ready to get married, which sucks!
Post # 12
I don’t understand how he can say he believes in marriage but also doesnt really. Is it something that is OK for others but not for him? I would definitely straighten this out before I spent another minute of my time waiting for a proposal. (Honestly, if it were me the second a guy threw the government in as an excuse I’d be gone).
Post # 13
Yeah, I would also be worried. If he’s against marriage, a proposal isn’t coming!
Post # 14
OP- do not wait for a proposal that isnt coming! When a man tells you who he is… believe him. If youve dated him for a year or two and this is how he feels, then it might be time to tell him you love him but you just dont have aligned visions of the future and you need to end it.
If you want to be a wife you deserve someone who wants to be a husband!
Post # 15
Well ladies I got my answer tonight. He avoid answering any questions about marriage,and made me feel like I was the bad person in this. I am so hurt right now :'( I don’t know what to do. If it doesn’t happen by our 4 anniversary (Two years now) I will be walking away from this relationship . Thank y’all for all of your advice
Post # 16
@MrsWBS: @BelliniChic: @Steampunkbride: @FEDORAble: @BrandNewBride:
@ktcheer09: OP…I’m not sure how old you are…but do you really want to wait another two years to see what may or may not happen?!? Please be true to yourself and your wants and needs.
In two years alone you could be meeting MR. RIGHT and actually working towards marriage!