(Closed) UGH! Bailing guests.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ahh I will be so upset if this happens to me. It is totally and utterly rude, especially with an excuse like that! 

Post # 5
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It happens. I’m still a little peeved at some guests that didn’t show or the guests that text me they couldn’t make it an hour before the ceremony. i had 15 guests not show up but 5 uninvited guests attended so I guess that’s not too bad. But still it’s the principal. I get your frustration. But my day was awesome regardless and yours will be too.

Post # 7
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had a number of people not show up. Two of which who had their own wedding a week after ours- if you’re busy, fine but don’t RSVP as attending and cost me money. Then we got a message to our website the morning of the wedding that two people couldn’t attend at the last minute.   Really people? I feel your pain!

Post # 8
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i understand its a pain but it happens just have the cateer box up those two meals for you and your hubby -say you didnt have a chance to eat with all the excitement going on– ours allowed us to have two meals boxed up for us to snack on later that night … we had a LOT OF no shows… i think 30 or 40 people were rsvps yes and were mia…

Post # 9
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Whenever I hear these stories, my heart stops!  I am glad our wedding is going to be on the small side (25-35), because ALL of the people on our list will show.  Unless there is an emergency such as illness or death, these people will be there.  At least I hope so!

It really galls me that people do that, especially without a reason.  I get really steamed when I hear about people who nag and nag to get an invite and then not show up!  It hasn’t happened to me yet, and I hope it doesn’t, but I really feel for the brides this has happened to.  Especially if the per person cost is high.

Post # 10
4438 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@carnivaltheme:  We had SEVEN people no show at our wedding.


DH’s grandparents (medical problem)

2 of DH’s friends, who we had to chase down for their RSVP and then later on our wedding night they were posting on Facebook about nothing in particular, haven’t spoken with them since.

3 of my family members, no explanation, sent me a check for $20 which doesn’t even begin to cover what I paid for their asses to be in the assigned seats….  Also haven’t talked to them since.


It’s enraging but there is literally nothing you can do about it.  I could not imagine doing this to someone at their wedding, even before having my own wedding.

Post # 11
23 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I cannot believe some people still think it’s acceptable to bail last minute for such a pathetic reason! I think unless something completely unpredictably awful has happened, you should do the right thing and honour your RSVP acceptance. Especially as you guys will not be out of pocket as a result of their impolite behaviour.

There’s a girl I work with who received a TEXT the evening before her wedding from a couple who said they couldn’t come! This is one thing I simply cannot get my head around.

Post # 12
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@carnivaltheme:  Eh it sucks.  But maybe they had an emergency – their car broke down or they had some unexpected medical bills or a tree fell on their house.

No-shows/last minute bailers suck, but you have to expect that it will happen when you plan a large party.

Post # 13
804 posts
Busy bee

People are idiots. I hate people who bail at the last minute for any event, but if you’re putting out a meal etc for them it’s just unbelievably rude.

A friend of mine wants to bail out of a wedding he’s going to with his partner at the end of the month and I’ve tried to convince him to at least tell the couple before their final headcount is due.

Post # 14
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We had 35 people not show up who RSVP’d. It was very anoying since I could have invited. We could only have a certin amount of ppl at the venue so it really hurt my fealings that I had to cut so many people that I wanted there just for people not to show.

Post # 15
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had two people not show up and have still not heard from them there reasoning…no calls, texts OR e-mail

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