(Closed) Ugh! Does this actually happen???

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had a handful of people RSVP and not show up. Although it was definitely rude because they never even followed up and said anything to us after the wedding, I don’t think they planned it in advance like Carrie and Doug. lol. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@destiny1120: Sometimes people RSVP and then something comes up and they can’t go, but I’ve never heard of anyone RSVPing “yes” when they have no intention of going. That just seems cruel, considering how expensive those receptions are!

Post # 5
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think the rule is that 10% of those who RSVP will ultimately not show?

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think that normal people actually do that. I’m sure it happens but if you associate with decent human beings, there shouldn’t be an issue.

ETA: After re-reading my post, I realize it could be misconstrued. What I meant was that normal people don’t RSVP yes and then plan to not go. If something comes up it’s one thing but to deliberately fuck the couple over is another. 

Post # 7
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I hope not. I’m not a bridezilla about anything but if someone did that to me I would go MENTAL. Our venue charges per person so if two don’t turn up I can equate that to a very real wasted cost. 4 pairs of shoes, for example! 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

We once RSVPed yes to a wedding and then at the last minute weren’t able to make it (the baby got sick). We felt HORRIBLE!

Post # 8
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

last wedding i was invovled in the bride was walking down her driveway to get into the car/get to the church and her phones rings and its her brothers friend saying he wont be coming – thats 2 invites she gave because her brother asked and $250 wasted

Post # 9
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2701 posts
Sugar bee

uhhhh I would never purposely RSVP knowing we’re not going to go. If something came up at the last minute, I would contact the bride to make sure she knows that we didn’t just skip out, that something actually occurred. I would be peeved if someone didn’t show up after RSVPing with no reason why, plus a little concerned.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Everyone was accounted for at our wedding. Those who RSVP’d yes and ended up not being able to come (2 couples, due to unexpected work/illness issues) gave us as much advance warning as they could that they wouldn’t be there.

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