Ugh. Feeling Too "Old" For My Dress. Help.

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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somedaymrsj :  you look fab! You’re rocking it!

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Lol I opened this thread expecting to see some super slinky little number with it all hanging out …

I’m genuinely confused about what is too “young* about this dress? 

Post # 48
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Blushing bee

Trust your first instinct. You nailed it on that dress! It’s gorgeous and it looks amazing on you. When does that ever happen when shopping for gowns in a bridal shop, even more so, in a second hand shop? 

 

Post # 49
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Sugar Beekeeper

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somedaymrsj :   

I am considerably older than you and have occasional  flashes of “oh god is is this MDAL…” (mutton dressed as  lamb – a rather nasty but  quite  funny old fashioned phrase for those who may not have come accross it ) so I know that feeling. 

Let me categorically say you are not MDAL in that dress, you look great.  Perfect fit , lovely dress  silhouette , wonderful figure.  

I agree the veil will look much better not as a blusher. I always think  veils worn from the crown of the head ( not pony tail style)  looks easily  the best. 

Post # 50
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Bumble bee

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somedaymrsj :  I’m 42, and I think you look gorgeous. Veil back will be even more gorgeous. I agree with another poster, and I would be curious to see what it looks like without the bow. The bow is pretty, but the dress by itself is gorgeous, and it may not need it, I bought a fit and flare dress on a great sale. I too wasn’t sure about the “young” style until I tried it on, and thought, “Damn! This dress was made for me!” Once you have hair and makeup done, you’ll feel amazing in it. 

Post # 51
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2019

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somedaymrsj :  Okay, yes, that I think that dress is absolutely perfect! Maybe a little satin (ivory? matching the lace) belt could look lovely on the same place..

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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somedaymrsj :  I think that looks beautiful! And the dress is gorgeous on you!

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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somedaymrsj :  Wow, that blingy belt is PERFECT for your dress! As for a veil, how about something simple that doesn’t compete with the gorgeous details on your dress? Maybe an elbow-length veil with a bit of volume up top for some added interest? Alternatively, you could do a long, simple drop veil for a bit of extra romance.  Good luck! 

Post # 55
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Bumble bee

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somedaymrsj :  Love the belt change – looks great!  And you look beautiful in the dress and not “too old” at all for it.  I totally sympathize with your anxiety though – I got married when I was almost 39 (and am a widow) so I felt REALLY insecure about wearing a wedding dress again … was certain people were judging me enough for remarrying and now would also judge me for being “inappropriate” with what I wore.  But the thing is, this was OUR wedding and I wanted to feel like a bride and for my husband to see me as one and for us to have the photographs of us in traditional wedding clothes as keepsakes.  So in the end, I wore a real wedding dress and do not regret it.  My only minor regret is the veil; if I had it to do over, I probably would have skipped that part altogether… but that’s just me.  Certainly, nothing feels more bridal than a veil and it’s not like we get much of an occasion to wear one, right?!  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Here’s my wedding day look for reference:

Karen and Patrick-229

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I am 44, too, and wore a long, lacy white dress with a chapel length veil and had a full on wedding with no thought that my age was a problem (it was my second marriage and his first as well). You look great. Rock it!

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