Post # 1
I’d posted about how I thought my FI’s dad might be turning into a Dadzilla with him asking his brother (FI’s uncle) to be our photographer without even consulting us. Well he’s at it again. We went over to FI’s parents’ house and his dad decided to tell us (not ask) that we just HAD to invite not only FI’s great aunts and uncles, but my FI’s second cousins as well. My Fiance doesn’t want them there and is trying to be cordial about things by saying stuff like “well we only want a smaller wedding, 60 guests max” etc. But his dad isn’t getting the hint and I don’t want to have to put my foot down and tell him straight out that they aren’t coming.
Fiance does want to invite his one great aunt that I met, but he feels that if he invites her, he’ll have to invite everyone else and then the snowball effect will occur. Invite one, have to invite them all, and then their kids and SOs. I’m starting to become somewhat annoyed, and told my Fiance he needs to talk to his dad and tell him we have a set list already and it’s not going over the 60 people mark. Mainly because we have to save up to build a house in 5 or 6 years (it’s FI’s dream to build a house instead of buying one) and I want a nice, intimate wedding and a killer honeymoon. The more people we invite, the more they will eat into our honeymoon budget, and for me that’s just a big no no. Hopefully, his dad will get the hint sooner rather than later. I’m just thankful we are having a longer engagement now, since I don’t have to deal with all this drama all at once.
Post # 3
My Future Father-In-Law is a thorn in my side. Refuses to rent a tux. Wants us to change the date. Makes comments about EVERY choice we make. Wants to know how much we pay for EVERYTHING. Wants us to cater the menu to mother of groom’s 14 allergies (wheat, egg, dairy, mushrooms, yeast, pineapple, almonds, peanuts, all beans, etc). I am so, so glad that he lives far away and I only have to deal with him through the phone most of the time.
Post # 4
@Tarheelgurl: I’m starting to think its important to tell family members that each person you invite strains your budget. I see posts all the time that are about this. I think if its parents its very important to be very upfront that you have a budget and you can only afford to feed so many people. I don’t get why people don’t understand that many of us are paying for our weddings on our own, and there are only so many people that a couple getting married can afford to invite to these things.
Post # 5
@mordantmaxim: OMG this is my FMIL!!!!
Post # 6
@jilleeann: I already told my Fiance that we will invite all those people as long as his dad pays for everyone of their meals and any other fees we would incur for inviting more people. And I’d want payment upfront. It just upsets me that his dad seems to think inviting them will be no big deal. He’s like “oh well you’re getting married far away, it’s not like most of them will come. But you should invite them as a courtesy.” But I’m thinking what if they DO come? Then we’ll have to add more money onto our budget for something we never wanted in the first place. Also, invitations aren’t free and postage ain’t cheap. I think he seems to forget about this since he’s not footing the bill for anything wedding related. Ugh!