(Closed) Ugh, FIL wants me to call him Dad

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just because you CAN it doesn’t mean you WILL. πŸ™‚

Post # 4
8520 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I call my in-laws mum and dad and I include hubby’s step dad in that as well! But I am guessing I have a better relationship than you (sorry don’t know the back story)! I have already promised Mother-In-Law that we will look after her in her old age because she doesn’t think SIL’s(by marriage she only has sons) would do it or be capable. I said sure why not what’s one more oldie and my mum and her get along great lol! I count myself lucky to have 3 dads and 2 mums!

Post # 5
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have a fine relationship with my inlaws but I have a dad and mom and WILL NOT be calling anyone else that… No thanks!!

Post # 6
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yuck.  My ILs extended the “mom and dad” thing after we got engaged, but it was totally my choice.  I did choose to call them Mom and Dad…when my father died, my Father-In-Law even told me he understood if I didn’t want to call him Dad anymore.  Sorry to hear your Father-In-Law is being such a jerk!  I vote call him Father in the iciest tone ever until he gets the picture.  πŸ˜€

Post # 7
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@peaches13:  HAHA love the father in the iceiest tone ever πŸ™‚

Post # 8
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It is a PERSONAL choice, and not his to make. 

Although, even if he is a D-Bag (lol, your term) somewhat nice of him to make the magnanimous offer.

I NEVER got close enough to my Ex-Inlaws in 20+ Years to call them Mom & Dad (although as a NEW Bride I did consider it in the beginning)… just couldn’t find myself doing it as it seemed to dishonour / take away from the lifelong relationship I had with MY OWN Mom & Dad (Mom was Mom, Dad was Dad)

In the end we settled on our first names all around (but I did call my Ex’s GP’s by their affectionate names… example Gramma Kate)

Considering my first marriage ended in Divorce (not pretty)… I am grateful that in the end I didn’t have to give up another set of “parents”… I just drifted away from “Dick & Jane”… just like one would lose contact with any other friends who you don’t see eye-to-eye with over time.

Lol, might be a valuable lesson in that experience for someone else.


Post # 9
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have a great relationship with Future Father-In-Law but I dont call him dad. Its sad that Fiance and I have been together almost 5 yrs and I still dont know what to call him! I just get on the phone and say “HEY!” then theres this awkward pause I hate and we continue talking. I have been married before and I called my ex’s dad “dad” but now our relationship is dead, burnt and gone and I guess I’m still in a little bit of fear of getting close to another “dad” only to have to break up the relationship.

Post # 10
6 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just tell them that I already have parents πŸ™‚

Post # 11
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

you can call him alot of things, but you don’t have to call him dad πŸ™‚

ugh, what a cringeworthy moment!

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