(Closed) Ugh Guest List Help!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Is your mom funding any of the wedding? Is she adamant about them being there or do you just feel obligated?

Post # 4
Bee
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

I would have a frank and honest conversation with your mother. It’s clear that this isn’t just a “having second thoughts” guest list issue. There are some serious risks that come with inviting them, and what it comes down to is making sure that you are happy and unstressed (as can be) on that day.

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I say don’t invite them.

Did the STD they got have the location of the ceremony and/or reception? If not, just don’t send them invitations. Send them Announcements after the fact instead maybe.

It doesn’t sound like you have any interest in a relationship with them at all, so not to worry about hurt feelings. Your peace of mind on your big day is way more important IMO.

Good luck!

Post # 7
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3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MsNarwhal:  I think, in that case, don’t invite them. If they say something about it, cross that bridge when you get there.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Usually I’d say if you send Save-The-Date Cards you need to invite people. But in this case I think you can get away with not inviting them. If anyone asks why you could say “based on things that happened at the anniversary party we’ve decided not to” – if you’re brave 🙂 You can also say your budget/size has changed and you aren’t able to accommodate everyone you originally planned to.

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