(Closed) Ugh, has any other newlywed gotten this?

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Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think the best response to an inappropriate question is something that will help them realize how ridiculous they sound. “No, I’m not pregnant–are you?” or “Why, do I look fat?”

Oddly, the only people who have asked when we’re having kids are FI’s niece and nephew. I don’t think they realize that by the time our future children are old enough to play with, they won’t be interested anymore! We try to humor them anyway, and remind them that they will get to be our free babysitters. (:

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

I have been asked if I was pregnant more times than I’d like to count. Due to weight gain, upset stomach or foods i just enjoy eating–like pickles!!! Just because I can eat a pickle every day does not mean I am pregnant!!!!! UGH! I don’t know why coworkers, friends, family even strangers feel its appropriate to say these things!!!! 

Post # 33
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3306 posts
Sugar bee

My Future Sister-In-Law said she was asked about grandkids approximately 37mins after the ceremony LOL…

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m a 38, so I’m getting alot of “before its too late” comments and have had the generally nosy questions about my reproductive system since I was in my 20s.  I’ve come up with several methods to shut rude people down.

 

“Oh, when are you having children?”

“I can’t have children.”  

“Oh no, I’m so sorry, is there…”

“because I hate them.”

“…”

 

“Oh don’t get me wrong, I like kids, but I could never eat a whole one.”

 

“You still have time to have kids!”

“Oh god I hope not.”

 

“You’ll understand when you have kids.”

“Does this mean you’d understand if you didn’t?”

 

I admit, its alot of sensationalism, but I’m appalled at what other people seem to think is acceptable conversational topics and have long since quit thinking I need to be polite to rude people.

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

The only annoying comments we have received have been from FI’s mother. She has planted into FI’s little brother’s head that a baby will happen after the wedding. Um, no. 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

vchan000:  that is AMAZING.

 

I am stealing your ideas. just FYI 🙂

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think the best answer is to say “I’m sorry, but this is an innappropriate question” or “it is personal, don’t you agree?”. 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think it’s incredibly rude of people to ask.  When I got enagaged everyone started asking us when we were having kids.  I find that to be a very personal question and none of anyone’s business.  Maybe we are in a stiuation where I can’t have kids (I’m not,  but just bringing up a point). 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

vchan000:  I LOVE this!!! One of my sister’s friends said to me when I was 27 (33 now) that when I finally do have kids,  I’ll be “old” LOL

When people askl me now,  just to spite them I say I hate children LOL

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

My Fiance wants to start trying for kids 3 or 4 months before the wedding, because I’d still be slim enough that nobody could tell anyways.

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