(Closed) Ugh, I am frusterated!! – Long vent!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

AWE, I am so sorry that your wedding doesnt reflect your personality. It sounds like your Fiance is being pretty inconsiderate to your feelings. If I were you I would sit down and talk to him about your original plans and how this has gotten out of control for you. You need to tell him like you feel that this isnt your wedding – maybe if he understands that this isnt a wedding to you because it doesnt reflect anything about you (meaning you will be less connected to it) that will be enough to get him thinking. If the wedding is such a big deal to him he needs to know that this isnt the wedding you want.

I really hope that you two are able to sit down and talk before it gets too out of control and you spend money on the things that you dont want. A wedding should be a reflection of the couple (if you both love karaoke then why not). I loved the look of black bridesmaid dresses (both of my girls picked their own and they looked very classy). All you can do is express how you feel. There is no point in planning an entire wedding if there is no joy for you in what you are doing.

Good look!

Post # 4
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163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow it sounds like you and your Fiance are totally NOT on the same page when it comes to what wedding you want! What happened? Sounds like he was happy with the non traditional Jamaica plan!

I think it was great of you to change your plans in order to try to make your extended family a part of your wedding as well. But it seems like you’re the only one who knows the meaning of the word “compromise”.

I believe you should take a step back and re-evaluate and re-discuss all your wedding plans with your Fiance. You should really focus on what your priorities are together, and discuss about how you picture your wedding. Only then you can try to find solutions that fit you both, and try to compromise on some things. And what everyone else thinks? It’s not important, it is your wedding and even if you’re not eloping it can still reflect who you are!

For the bridesmaids: perhaps a dark grey dress with a coloured slash (pink, ivory, champagne) might fit everyone! And grey is the color of 2011…

For the reception: Not all people are comfortable with being at the center of attention, so it might be understandable that your Fiance doesn’t want to make any fancy moves in front of everyone. Still, the karaoke might be fun. Perhaps you can keep it for the afterparty? (Make sure there’s at least a couple of hours of “normal” dance, then start with karaoke!)

Bouquet and garter toss: if you don’t want it, I’d put my food down on that one..

Good luck with it, don’t let anyone bully you into a wedding you won’t enjoy!!

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