- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Alright background first. We’ve been engaged a year, unsucsessfully planning a year because my Fiance will not commit to anything wedding wise. (it took a LONG time to get a ring). Future Mother-In-Law, when budget was made offered to help then retracted, not another word about the wedding has been said. my parents i really have no relationship with, they don’t believe I should get married since I have a daughter from previous relationship, I moved two hours from all my friends and sister after engagement to be closer to Fiance. So basically I am on my own wedding wise.
Ok so my Fiance and I had the talk about how no one was helping me other than the best man with any decisions with the wedding (yes you read that right). We talked about how since it was all on me I just wanted to elope because I can’t handle the stress of finishing college, raising a 3 year old and expected to plan and pay for the entire wedding by myself. (long story BG in PP) Well now all the sudden my Future Mother-In-Law who I don’t talk to outside of family events texted me “Let me know what I can help with for the wedding plans.” We aren’t exactly close and feel like this is out of force of my Fiance she sent this.
I’m not sure how to act. Great he told his momma I was so upset. I guess its no secret. But couldn’t he have just helped? I didn’t want this to leave us and now I look like a drama queen I feel like. I don’t now how to respond or to respond. What should I say “no thanks i can’t afford it on my own now and I’m sick of the idea of a wedding and want to elope?” I am so irritated I don’t know if at myself for talking to my Fiance about this, my Fiance for telling his momma our arguements, or his mom for the fact we have been engaged for a year and she waited 4 months beforre the wedding to offer help. What should I do? or say? Maybe I am over reacting to the Future Mother-In-Law thing but all I wanted was my Fiance to say “yes eloping is fine book this person and lets do it” or “No, here lets go look at this venue that will book a last minute wedding and commit.”