(Closed) Ugh… I just need to vent

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

1, 2, 3… Breathe

Looks like you have a lot on your plate / mind.  And from what I can see much of it is in the WHAT IF category… in that you are worrying about stuff that hasn’t happened yet.

Just enjoy the moment… the precious time you have with your SO in the interim BEFORE he proposes.

Once that happens you can deal with the other stuff…

Moving In Together – Possibly Finding Somewhere Else to Live – Renting vs Buying – Drawing up a Realistic Budget – Saving Money – Making Wedding Plans etc

Honestly, at my age (I am over 50) I can tell you that life goes along too darn fast… don’t hurry it away

Enjoy what you have NOW… you know the Engagement is coming.

BUT this is lovey-dovey time too… and it will pass away far too soon.  Embrace it, bathe in it… soak it all in.  Don’t miss out.

Lol, it will sustain you in your old age.



Post # 4
13012 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with PPs — don’t worry about things that haven’t happened yet.  If your parents aren’t contributing, and neither are his, maybe you should consider a longer engagement so you can recoup some of the money you put down on the house, or cut back to have a smaller wedding. 

Deep breath, and enjoy the time with your SO! 

Post # 8
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

There are sooo many ways to come to that determination…

Where is the “middle ground” (if being in the middle is important to both of you)

Who has the job that requires the most focus

Where is the best housing choices / availability


I know the state you are in and area … and realize that not all alternatives may be ideal in regards to driving … so this is something you will need to negotiate with your SO


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