Post # 1
So, this weekend Darling Husband and I are invited to an event for a friend. The friend that it is for is a mutual friend, but more DH’s friend than mine. I’m 38 weeks. It’s a little more than an hour away from home, but about 40 minutes from our hospital, so it’s not out of the zone that I feel comfortable in.
However, my feet are swollen (VERY. I cannot wear my shoes, except for one pair of flip flops) , I am tired, and I just do not care about going to this party. I told Darling Husband this, and he keeps saying “Well, I told him I’d be there.” Well, untell him. I don’t mean to be selfish, but I would like for Darling Husband and I to do something that was just the two of us and a little more laid back. (Go to dinner and a movie, etc.) This is someone that we see often and I really don’t think our absence would be offensive.
It’s a wine and cheese type of event, so I guess I’d be stuck with a glass of water and some cheese and crackers LOL.
Am I being unreasonable (yes, probably)? But I just am not into this kind of trek right now.
Post # 3
@tnbellebee: If it were me, I’d probably bow out, but encourage my husband to go… knowing that he’d probably stay home with me out of guilt, but I’m crafty like that.
Post # 4
Dude, I’d pull the pregnant card. I’m not pregnant, but man, I hate being the Dirty Delete when all my friends get to drink, so doing that at 38 weeks pregnant sounds…very not fun :/
Post # 5
I wouldn’t want to travel anywhere longer than 15-20mins if I was that far along so I don’t think you’re being unreasonable.
Post # 6
I would skip it but encourage your husband to go. My sister gave birth in less than an hour, so being that far from home would not have worked for her. The speed of her births was a total surprise to everyone, including her.
Post # 7
@Miss Grey: I have tried that, and he just keeps insisting that I can go and that it would be fun. I am hoping that if I moan long enough about it he’ll just give it up, haha.
@Mrs.Camera: I know! I seriously don’t care about sitting around watching a bunch of people eat/drink stuff that I can’t have.
@MrsDPal811: Excatly. I don’t like going very far from home right now, especially to an area that we are not familiar with.
@MrsTVLover: I hope that does not happen to me! I am so scared of that happening!
Post # 8
Pull the pregnant card, and if it’s not a close friend’s party then your Darling Husband should too. Honestly, if you feel miserable now you’ll be worse at an event you don’t want to be at, and I get that your Darling Husband technically could go but seeing as you’re about ready to have your baby, keeping you company and going on a low key date with you should be more important.
Maybe I’m lucky but my Darling Husband doesn’t want to make any solid plans from now until the baby arrives (I’m 36 weeks). He just tells people “well, with the baby due soon I can’t commit to any plans but if wife is feeling ok and I can make it out then I’ll be there”.
Post # 9
I would totally pull the pregnant card… That said, my Darling Husband doesn’t like doing stuff like that so he would be the one trying to get me to pull the pregnant card. lol
Post # 10
@MrsSawyer: I wish my Darling Husband would do this, but it is a close friend of his. I would rather he stay at home with me (or do something low key), but if he won’t do that then I wish he would just go and not ask me about it anymore.
Post # 11
@tnbellebee: Might wanna make hay while the sun’s still shining…this may be the last chance for you and Darling Husband to go anywhere without a baby for a long while, maybe he’s so gung ho about going because it’s a narrowing window of opportunity.
I get that you don’t feel awesome, and that’s it’s a pain in your pregnant ass to drive for 40 minutes to watch a bunch of people drink wine and eat cheese…but sometimes you gotta take one for the team, who knows?
You might just have fun.
Post # 12
Send him without you. Tell him you are just too uncomfortable, but it’s important he go for the friend.
Post # 13
Dude, I’m not as far along as you and I totally play the PG card. If it sounds remotely hot, tiring, boring, exhausting/anything, I pull the “Ugh, I feel sick and my back hurts because I’m growing a life in here” card. LOL
If you don’t want to go, I totally support you! If I was that far along, Darling Husband probably wouldn’t go without me just in case I went into labor early, but that’s because Darling Husband is paranoid and a worrywart.
Post # 14
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@tnbellebee: I’d play the pregnant card. Its so hard to have a good time when you feel miserable. I totally remember those days. Just say you don’t feel up to it (which is true) but encourge hubby to go and have a good time. If he goes just be greatful for the peace and quiet for a little bit (because in a couple weeks you won’t have that anymore). If he decides to stay with you than that’s his choice.
Post # 15
I’d stay in and send the DH- even withut the preggo card I always tend to be more of a homebody, and Darling Husband totally understands. He’s gone to a bunch of stuff and I’ve enjoyed staying in and surfing the net, reading etc. Enjoy the “me” time- there will be very little of it after baby comes around!
Post # 16
Pull the pregnant card. He has a very pregnant wife at home that can go into labor at any moment, that’s excuse enough!