(Closed) Ugh.. i SHOULD be the happiest woman alive.

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

So he got a .45 solitaire diamond and you’re disappointed it’s not a sapphire, or he got you a .45 solitaire sapphire and you’re disappointed it’s not bigger?  If you wanted a sapphire and he got you something different, I think you should tell him you’re unhappy because he ignored your wishes. 

Post # 4
2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@livliv:  I know EXACTLY how you feel!! Ugh. FH and I had decided to spend a small amount of money on our wedding bands (just plain gold rings) and I spent the entire morning looking at diamond bands… especially when we can use the money on so many other things… and I think I only want the diamond band because I’m envious of other rings I see on here.

Maybe you could consider getting a wedding band with sapphires in it? Those are really really gorgeous and look stunning next to larger diamonds since it brings out the sapphire imo!! Are you considering asking him to change the setting or did you want a sapphire as a center stone?

Post # 5
2137 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

 IM a fan of if you dont like it tell him!!

yes he might get his feelings hurt but its YOUR ring that youll wear forever.

i picked my ring and still ended up changing it like four more times.

Post # 6
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s hard isn’t it? There will always be rings out there that are bigger/more expensive than our own, but you should love it for what it is and because of who gave it to you. Possibly get a sapphire right hand ring later on?

Post # 7
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Aaaaaaaaaaand this is why I deliberately picked my ring and watched him buy it. Yeah, sure, I took some of the ‘romance’ out of it. I also realized that men are practical, silly beings, and if I wanted what I wanted, I’d be better off getting it myself. The proposal was all him, and me picking the ring took a lot of stress off of him.


Hope he kept his receipt sweetheart, and if he knew you wanted sapphire he has no right to get angry with you wanting to return it. If anything he should be happy you’re saving him the money! 

Post # 8
3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

One thing I’ve found since being on the Bee is that a lot of men really think an engagement ring should only be a diamond!  I’d ask him his thought process behind the ring he picked and hear his side of it (the engagement ring symbolizes the commitment you are BOTH…I really believe it reflects him too!)  Maybe hearing that will make you love the ring even more!


I like @sheepandbear:  ‘s idea of getting sapphires in your band!  Super sexy…thinking of one myself for my 2nd band!  

Post # 9
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I am also confused about what exactly the ring is that you got…

Did you want something different because you thought the ring didnt matter, and that you didnt deserve a diamond…Or you really did want a sapphire (question mark key is not working ugh!)

I felt this way about my dress. It didnt matter, just a dress blah blah So I settled and didnt want to spend money on it.  In the end, you know what the dress DOES matter.  And I told Fiance I needed a new dress, and we went and got one.

You need to be happy with your ring, it is something you will wear forever.  Dont settle on your ring, be honest with him. 



Post # 12
42 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

Is your fiance open to a future upgrade/reset that incorporates the stone he proposed to you with? I think your diamond would look great in a three stone setting. How about an 8 mm sapphire center with a .5 ct diamond on each side? That would be gorgeous! 

For what it’s worth, I believe your e-ring is something you should be 100% happy with. I think you should tell him you’re not satisfied with it sooner rather than later. I’m sure he just wants you to love it. Afterall, you’re going to wear it every day of your life. I honestly don’t think your current ring will ever grow on you because the style is so unlike anything you said you wanted. I think it will always bug you that it’s not what you had your heart set on.

Post # 13
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Before you sent it back to change the band, you should have told him you would really love a halo since it was what you had always thought youd get. I mean, you already told him you wanted a pave band, a halo wouldnt have been too crazy.

I am also one for gettin a spphire band. I have a .5 carat solitaire and I adore it! Dont let size or anything get to you. We all get ring envy, I know I do. But at the end of the day, a diamond is a diamond is a sapphire is whatever else anyone chooses for their engagement rings. You could always stack some bands together and get a truly unique look! Soliataires are the best for that!


Post # 15
3775 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Just tell him.  If you can’t tell him you dont like the ring, you are in trouble, cause there are plenty of things in the future that will make that look like a piece of cake.  Tell him.

Post # 16
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s great that he did go for quality over size though.  My Fiance got me a .60 carat but the specs are incredible and it is colorless and almost flawless.  This sucker isn’t very big but it sparkles like CRAZY and blows bigger duller diamonds out of the water.

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