(Closed) ugh idk what to say

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Just tell them that it’s your decision and you didn’t want to put any mention of gifts on the invitations because people’s attendance is gift enough.  If they want you to receive money, they can tell their family that.

Post # 4
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have never heard of a money tree?  At my wedding I received a couple of presents, but mostly cash and checks. 

Post # 5
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve never heard of this, but if I saw something that said “Money Tree” on an invitation I’d be confused and annoyed.  People in my area give money for weddings and gifts for showers anyway, but I really don’t think the word “money” should be anywhere on any kind of printed invitation.

Post # 6
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve never heard of doing this.

Are you not doing a registry? That’s a pretty good way to avoid getting 10 toasters.


ETA: if you’re worried about what your Future In-Laws think, you could always tell them you just forgot. FI’s reaction is likely just parroting what he’s heard.

Post # 8
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You were totally in the right to leave off the mention of a money tree.  (Though I’m not familiar with the term.)

I always discourage my brides from making any mention of registries on their invitations.  Invitations are something that you are most likely going to save for years and years in a scrapbook.  When you look at it you want to remember the day, not the gifts or cash you received.  Maybe you could explain it to the in laws that way if they bring it up?

Post # 9
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

What about doing a honeymoon registry?

Post # 10
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have never heard of a money tree.. but most weddings the couple just recieves cash and cards mostly and some gifts. Are you registred.? IM sure that people are smart enought to figure out if you arent registred for 10 toasters that you arent going to get ten. I would register for some gifts if you havent already for the people that you know will want to bring an actual gift. I know that you said you and Fiance have lived together for a while, but there is nothing that you can upgrade or you have thought about but passed up?

Post # 11
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

We don’t really need anything, either, as we’ve lived together for two years and lived alone for 3 before that. But, we went ahead and registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond for a few things. Most folks will likely give a cash gift anyway, but having an alternative for those who are determined to get you a gift will help you guys get stuff you want. We registered for “upgrades,” and we already got an awesome set of flatware. Did we particularly need new forks, no… but this set we fell in love with.

The bottom line is that while this isn’t about gifts, this is a time when people really want to give you something… so maybe just let them.

Oh, I have no idea what a money tree is either…

Post # 13
4824 posts
Honey bee

If putting Money Tree is common, then people are used to giving cash. So I would be willing to bet most people will still give cash.

And still register somewhere for stuff you would love, maybe closet organizers, baskets, new pillows, a lampshade etc.

Post # 14
7522 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

We also did not register and people gave us monsy and gift cards.  We only got like 2 actual gifts that came in boxes and they were cool unique things.  I think you made the right decision.

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