(Closed) ugh im sad and i want someone to make me feel better =( ((long))

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Im sorry this is happening to you : (

Maybe she feels like shes going to lose you as a friend or maybe a little bit of jealousy because the spot lights on you right now….Have you tried asking her whats wrong?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

*hugs* I am not sure what to advise really, except to offer sympathy. I was disappointed in my Maid/Matron of Honor too and I finally sat and had a chat with her. She had never been a Maid/Matron of Honor before and didn’t understand what I was expecting from her, so we just hashed out a list of Here Is What I Would Like You To Do, and it has been great. She was upset at me for not giving her guidance and I hadn’t even known! So now we are happy and I am thrilled.

Since you said that you and your Maid/Matron of Honor are both argumentative, maybe you could write a letter listing what you expect from her as Maid/Matron of Honor (with lots of compliments thrown in) and ask her to read it?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t have advice, but I can offer hugs!

 

*HUGS*

Post # 8
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2889 posts
Sugar bee

It’s kind of a crappy situation but nothing to ruin a life long friendship over. I actually had a similar situation. My Maid/Matron of Honor and life long BFF contacted my mom and told her she wanted to throw me a shower because “What kind of Maid/Matron of Honor would she be if she didn’t.”  In the end, my mom found a venue, made the plans, and paid the bill. Maid/Matron of Honor pretty much took care of sending invitations and favors and asked the other 2 BMs to come up with shower games but took credit for the shower. I found this out after when my mom was upset, she felt like she was stuck with the stress of organizng the shower and then left to pay the bill. Of course, she didn’t tell this to my Maid/Matron of Honor and I ddin’t want to hear it after I had a nice shower, it was kind of a dark shadow on the day.

Post # 10
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I totally sympathize with you my best cousin who we share “d” everything has been flaking out on me since i got engaged and is less than interested in my wedding.  I too have been a big ball of tears and sadness.  I jusst hope everything works out after the wedding. i also won’t confront her because i don’t want to fight.  Good luck lets just pray they lighten up or that we can ignore them if they don’t

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Has she always been an ‘unreliable’ person? Because mine is so I constantly have to remind her about things for the shower and wedding.  Some people are just like that, they are careless and just plainly unreliable.  Im sure she will come through for you, thank goodness you have your mom’s help.  It makes me sad too that my only sister rsvp’d ‘no’ yesterday for no reason at all! She doesnt want to be a part of my day, and thats my sister not friend.  I dont know, but just dont let anything bring you down, its your day!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Aw, I’m sorry she’s been such a disappointment.  I understand why you’re so upset.  This is a big let down.  Honestly, it doesn’t bode well for the rest of your friendship, you may find that you resent her after all the wedding stuff is done.  My only advice is to let your Mom and your BM’s take over any task she was supposed to do but hasn’t done yet.  She may have hurt feelings but at least it will be done.  There’s really nothing else you can do.  Remember, she might be a let down but there are probably lots of other people that would do anything for you and love you very much.  I hope your mood improves.

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