Post # 1
So.. I’ve been planning our wedding for the last 2 months now, and our wedding date is 11-11-11… First of all, I want to say I’m the kind of person who has to plan EVERYTHING a LONGGG time in advance! And only a few months to plan my wedding is ridiculous to me..
When Mr. M and I decided on our wedding date, our first idea to get married was in the Bahamas. We’re going on a cruise Nov 17th for 4 days, so we figured we’d do it then. We wouldn’t of course get our date, but who really cares about the exact date, if it’s like a week apart from the real time..We asked our family if they wanted to join us, my parents were ALL for it! But, Mr M’s mom wasn’t. Okay, that’s fine. So we decided not to do that.
We talked about it and talked about it, and decided he and I would do a ceremony ALONE together, since we believe the vows are really only for he and I!
The plan was set to do that.. I started the planning, life wasn’t very stressful, but then our parents said they wanted to be apart of everything. They just can’t help pay for any of it. WE ARE PAYING FOR EVERYTHING! Yes, our budget isn’t very high, but still, we’re paying for everything!
So, for the last month, I’ve been planning this wedding for our family and everyone to be there for.
I asked Mr M what he thinks we should do.. His answer..”I don’t know babe, whatever you wanna do..” UGH!!! What I wanna do doesnt matter. Because I’m happy with it being just he and I. It’s our parents wanting all of this stuff.
Just needed to vent.. Thanks ladies!!
Post # 3
I think it should be about what YOU want, NOT your parents. My dad wanted to walk me down the isle but since I didn’t want him to he didn’t. Sure he was mad about it but he hasn’t mentioned it once since then and seems fine with it now. This is YOUR day. Don’t let your parents force what they want in if you don’t agree. Maybe you can find something they can do to make them happy where you can still have your private ceremony.
Post # 4
Thanks! We tried to reason with them.. So we decided okay, lets do a dinner afterwards together, but thats not just as easy as one would think.. We decided to go to a restaurant that we went to for our 1st date, but then my mother of course COMPLAINED about what was on the menu, the kind of place it is, etc.. UGH!
Thanks for your advise tho 🙂
Post # 5
You two should do what makes you happy. You dont want to look back and regret your wedding day because it is some whole ordeal you never even wanted…. if you and he want whatever then DO IT!
Let the parents know later… you couldn’t plan a whole TO DO… because of money, time, or even stress. You are the bride 2b you should be happy and this message you just post is everything, but happy.
Tell your Fiance to get it together and tell you what he wants too…. does he want a whole to do… really he doesn’t seem from what you say… to into it either. You two should talk and then make a decision… everyone else will simply have to live with it.
Post # 6
I once read ‘he who holds the checkbook holds the power’…so if you guys are paying, do vows wherever you want, just the two of you or just with each set of parents, and then why not have everyone go to a really nice dinner after? Do what you guys both wanted. A lot of times your original idea is the best one because it’s what your heart tells you is best for you. 🙂