(Closed) ugh – kind of bummed out about….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@cherrycoke: all fair feelings, but i wouldnt worry to much. It could go the opposite way too. Firstly, maybe he wont get the job and you wont have to worry about this at all or secondly, you fiance may out grow this guys “attitude” if you know what I mean. It might be anovelty to have him there at first (for you FI) but going out night after night might wear off fast…remember your Fiance is engaged to you now and probably has a lot more responsibilites then this friend….money, home,wife etc….

and as for the ex…other posters are going to say it as well. But your Fiance chose you and he loves you so i wouldnt worry to much about some girl he dated for a little bit…:)

Hope this helps!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@cherrycoke:  Try not to worry about it – it may all come to nothing.  If the best friend does get the job then talk to your Fiance and tell him your concerns and ask him what he thinks.  Tell him you don’t begrudge them “man time” but that you’re not comfortable with him acting as best friend’s “wing man” or potentially hanging out with an ex and see what he says.  See if you can reach an acceptable agreement that involves him getting to spend time with his friend that doesn’t include trying to score women at bars. 

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@cherrycoke: Your welcome!! I have to agree with what lisa105 said as well. It sounds like he is going to get the job, so if he does make sure you talk to him. Communication is key…and the most importatnt part of that conversation would be that you dont care that he has man time…but that you are not comfortable with that friend all the time….

I hope this works out for you!

Post # 7
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

Try not to let it bother you, FI’s best friend is a womanizer and he would never dream of trying to make Fiance be one. Think of it this way, if you had a girl friend who was well, easy, would that make you easy? Would your Fiance not want you to hang out with said easy friend? It’ll be ok, I think. I might be jaded though, I actually really like his BFF, he’s a great guy despite his “man-whore” stature LOL.

Post # 9
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

@cherrycoke: Really? Why would he care if you had a friend with different values? How far does that extend? Religion? Looks?

Post # 11
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

@cherrycoke: Do you know that for sure though? FI’s BFF is extremely respectful of Fi’s status as very taken man, regardless of his own.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sadly, you can’t really say anything. I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate it if your Fiance told you that your best friend basically sucked and he didn’t want you hanging out with her.
I can’t stand my FI’s best friend, but he was there before me and he’ll be there if things don’t work out.

Post # 14
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

@cherrycoke: Ok, in all honesty, you have a Fiance problem, not a FI’s best buddy problem. My boys were also in college together, in a frat together (FI was frat pres, and Fi’s best was Vice) but Fi would never fool around on another guys lady. They do have a guy friend who does that (Taco, I have no idea), and they both just watch him around me LOL.

Post # 16
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

@cherrycoke: Hmmm I guess I don’t see the relevence? If your Fiance just messed around with any girl , why would his best friend 1, care, 2, care that he removed her from facebook, and 3, care that years later he’s dating and engaged to you?

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