(Closed) Ugh my ex just text me

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

ignore it… or responde telling him thanks but no thanks 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would either not respond at all, or just say “Thank you” and leave it at that. I think his text is more in response to your grandfather’s death rather than him wanting get back into your life.

And I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather. 🙁

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would either ignore it or just tell him that you are in a good relationship now and you don’t think talking to him would be a good idea. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have to agree with the others….you either ignore the text or you just say “thanks” and let it go.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I really don’t think you need to say anything.  To me, it seems rude to say that you’re in a relationship, or “thanks but no thanks”–that almost makes it seem like you’re assuming that he wants to get back together.  To me it sounds like he’s honestly just trying to be nice.  If you don’t want to talk to him just ignore it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I would just say thank you and move on.  By texting him, you kind of opened the door for him to think it was ok/appropriate to text you, so just send a polite reply and them do not contact him/talk to him again.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t mean to sound judgmental or anything, but it seems weird that you texted him in the first place if you didn’t want him to talk to you…even if he did know your grandfather. It just seems like you were opening a can of worms. Obviously he’s going to text you back wondering if you need someone to talk to because in his mind you were reaching out to him (that’s what I woud think if an ex I hadn’t talked to in 2 years texted me). I don’t think you should text him back or if you do just say thank you and move on. Maybe I don’t really understand the problem here.

I am sorry about your grandfather passing away though…I know that losing a family member can be a really difficult time.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Like the pp said, if you didn’t want to hear from him, you probably shouldn’t have texted him in the first place. If I were him, I’d probably assume that you wanted to talk if you texted something like that. It sounds like he’s been polite and kind in his responses (to you and your family) in this situation, so if you don’t want to talk to him, just say thanks for the offer and leave it at that.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MissParrot: I think you are in denial and wanted to talk to him. My ex I dated for 7 years and was engaged to and I do not text him to notify him of things that are going on in my family. I have my Fiance and I respect him enough to not be texting exes no matter what the circumstances.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t see what the big deal is.  I believe you opened the door to texting and he’s merely being polite to ask if you are ok essentially and he’s there for you if you need it.  I wouldn’t read into it thoughts of wanting to get back together.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just say “Thanks” . I agree with the other posters…

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