Post # 77
@JamaicaBride: LOL! Thanks for the laugh! “Verbally ripped them out a new one”, I love that! I’m really wondering where this is all going to lead (ie, uninviting them to the wedding)…. I’m leaving that ball in FI’s court. I hope this really is eating her up. She deserves a few sleepless nights.
Post # 78
that is human nature, when they need help they make all kinda promises but then dont keep them later. BILL THEM for the work you did. that is just fair
Post # 79
umm…I was on your side for most of this…until she offered to uphold the bargain. You can’t change your mind about the flatware and then still bill her for your services. She offered her dinnerware as promised and you told her not to worry about it. You still have the right to be pissed that she was originally a little shaky but billing her now? Nuh uh. That ain’t right. BUT she should figure out a really nice $2k wedding present for you now. Since that was going to be their present, they better have something AWESOME now. (Prolly won’t happen though since you’re upset with her…)
Post # 80
I’m confused. When did she offer to uphold the bargain?
Post # 81
@MightySapphire: I didn’t read where she agreed to uphold her end of the bargain. What I read was that she would “help” bakerella and her Fiance with rentals for their wedding….without specifying exactly what they “help” would be.
EDIT: and I had to add…b/c of how ridiculous the whole situation is. She graciously offered the “help” in lieu of getting them an actual GIFT for the wedding….LOL! All you can do is laugh, cry, or rage like a lunatic at situations like these.
Post # 82
@MightySapphire: She initially offered to “help” cover the costs of the rentals as our wedding gift, then the next day she left a voicemail saying she would “take care of it all”, so you’re partially correct. I think she still intended though that as “covering it all” would be our wedding present rather than the barter we had both originally agreed to. I declined for multiple reasons.
One, was that I had already seen the dishware we had agreed upon and was happy with it. I have no idea what she had intended to pick in her “taking care of it” nor am I going to leave that to her discretion.
Two, I didn’t want to deal with the logistics of it all. If my caterer needs something he would have to call me to have me call her to have her call the rental place. That’s like a game of broken telephone, there’s no way it’s going to work.
Three, she’s already let me down in a huge way, I don’t really trust her to follow through just because now she feels guilty. Not having dishes/glasses/silverware would be a pretty bad scenario at the wedding!!!
Four, I’d still be out the amount of hours (which equals billing) if she DID book everything and paid for it as our wedding gift. I didn’t offer to design her house for free, trust me. Free paint consult, sure, no problem. Do you entire house and spend countless hours on the phone with you and shopping for you? Not so much.
So the way I look at it is that no matter how you slice it, she’s screwed me. Lovely. Moving onwards though, the stuff I am renting is gorgeous 🙂
Post # 83
Update please! Did you bill her? How did she respond?
Post # 84
I understand not wanting her to do the rentals herself because of the problems it might create, but I think it’s worth checking in with her to see if she meant she would just lend you guys the stuff that was originally promised. That was the deal, right?
Post # 85
@guitargirl: Nothing to update with. Fiance hasn’t done/said anything, he’s been swamped with work. I’m not making a move without his go ahead…. The husband did call him earlier this week but Fiance hasn’t been able to call him back yet. I’d really like to uninvite them from the wedding, but I’m treading carefully here.
@sarahrun: Good question but I’m 90% sure she meant she was going to rent from somewhere, not loan us the original stuff. In any case, my own rentals are arranged, so she needs to just go away. I’m done with her.
Post # 86
Ugh-my sympathies. That sounds awful. Have a great wedding!