(Closed) UGH! People can be so insensitive! (vent)

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@FutureMrsKenward:  Uh, that man is a douche bag.

You will be beautiful on your wedding day regardless of what you do or don’t do to your arms!

Post # 5
1869 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@FutureMrsKenward:  What an idiot. I can just imagine the drunken mess that he was. 

Pay him no attention. 35 pounds is a BIG DEAL. Congrats on losing all that weight!! Hell, I’m trying to lose 5 pounds for my shower dress that I bought over the summer when I was a little smaller (damn holidays), and I’m having a hard time doing that. I love food too damn much. 

Post # 6
44 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

@FutureMrsKenward:  I just looked at your engagement photos and I think you’re beautiful!  You should be so proud of how far you’ve come.  There will always be that one person to try to burst your bubble, but please don’t let them get you down.  Your FI obviously thinks you are are beautiful, and some other jerks opinion shouldn’t mean anything.   You’re gorgeous and don’t deserve negative comments!

Post # 7
9918 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@FutureMrsKenward:  People sometimes have NO IDEA how many pounds makes a difference on someone, or what “ten pounds” means or whatever.  I wouldn’t worry too much about it.

Post # 8
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@FutureMrsKenward:  No, I get it. Even douche bags can get under our skin, especially when we are already sensitive to the topic at hand.

I hate my arms too. I work on them like crazy, I am strong and yet I hate the way they look. Just a fact. If someone said something nasty about them it would hurt me too. Here’s the thing though not ONE person has commented on my arms. Instead they have told me how amazing my wedding was (still, 18 months later) and it was featured in two magazines. Thankfully your arms, legs, pant size etc doesn’t change the face that you will be an absolutely beautiful bride. That is all anyone will think too! Even Mr. Douche Bag. 😉

Post # 9
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@FutureMrsKenward:  I’m impressed with your self-control. I would have hit that douche pickle right in the face.

Post # 10
954 posts
Busy bee

You are gorgeous. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

Post # 12
4497 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Idiot. Don’t pay attention to him. 35 lbs is HUGE accomplishment and a lot of work to lose. Clueless man.

Post # 13
12257 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@FutureMrsKenward:  That drunk asshole! Don’t take it personally, though. Most people can’t tell a 35lb weight loss by sight. It’s all just “Oh, she lost weight!”

Post # 14
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@FutureMrsKenward:  guys can be assholes. i lost 30 lbs before my wedding and it was noticeable. i went from a size 10 to a size4. His groomsman heard me mention that my dress has to be drastically altered. He looked at me all confused and was like “wait you lost weight” it’s like thanks jerk!  Haha you look great in your e-pics and will lookf fabulous on your wedding day! Just remember it doesn’t matter what he thinks! 

Post # 15
45 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

Wow, that’s a really insensitive thing to say. I’m sorry you had to experience that. Pay no heed to that guy!

That said, it’s really hard for some people to notice those kinds of differences (weight loss, haircut, etc.). I am, unfortunately, one of those people… A couple of years ago my dad lost almost 50 lbs, and I actually didn’t notice. Yeah, I know, that’s kind of awful of me… But it was a gradual process, and I guess I just sort of forgot what he looked like before, if that makes sense. When I look at pictures of him from a couple of years ago and now, the difference is really noticeable. It was just harder to tell while it was happening. I’ve also not noticed my mom/friends getting haircuts several times *blushes* but maybe some people are just blind to that kind of thing? He probably didn’t mean to be so rude, is what I mean.

Beauty isn’t about numbers, it’s about happiness and confidence. If you’ll look anything like your engagement photos on your wedding day, you’ll be the prettiest person in the room by far. 🙂 

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