(Closed) Ugh… Quick NWR question.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should she give the wife a heads up
    Leave it alone. : (35 votes)
    70 %
    tell her : (15 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    She needs to stay out of it. She doesn’t know this women or the guy, for that matter. If he makes a habit of trying to hook up with other women then it will come out eventually, if it hasn’t already. If she did tell the wife then he would more than likely find out how she knew and your friend could potentially lose her job. He’s a total slime ball but I don’t think it’s worth getting involved.

    Post # 4
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    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would totally tell if it could be done anonymously.The bad thing would be that he would know it was one of you guys that told. You don’t want him to come looking for you guys over getting him in trouble and possibly ruining his marriage.

    Post # 5
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    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    If it were me, I would want to know if my husband was acting like that, but at the same time your co-worker might want to be careful. I wouldn’t want someone to lose their job over something that really won’t matter to them after he checks out of the hotel.

    Post # 8
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    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @pinkb:  I meant like get fired or something for slander. I’ve worked in retail so I know how bad punishments can be if theres a customer complaint. Maybe create a fake facebook account that can’t be traced back?

    Post # 9
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    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    No way. Unless I had suspicions already, I would never believe a stranger who called.   As another PP said, it actually could endanger her job. Who knows what the irrate husband or wife could accuse her of. It would become a “he said” “she said”

    If a random person called you right now to tell you about a “hit on” by your husband… would you really believe her whole heartedly? 

    Post # 10
    Member
    3261 posts
    Sugar bee

    No, she doesn’t even know him or her. She’ll figure it out eventually.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1128 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    As much as I would want to know, I’m not sure if I would believe it because I would believe my Darling Husband over anyone, and its really not her place.

    Post # 12
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    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    This is so not your business and you don’t know anything about this couple. Sure they are married on facebook, but maybe they are going through a divorce or maybe they are pretend married (ps, drives me crazy that people still do this jokingly). Maybe they swing. And, you have no proof anything happened either. Absolutely no good can come from getting involved.

    Post # 13
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    46414 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If she were my employee and I found out she had done something like that, I would fire her.

    People are entitled to expect confidentiality from hotel employees whether they agree with the customer’s behavior or not.

    Post # 15
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    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I was married and had a son with my ex husband. I eventually found out that throughout our entire marriage he was acting single on his “guys nights”, hooking up with random girls…. After I left him there were a ton of people who were like “yea….we knew”. These weren’t friends, but I work in retail and they worked in other stores throughout the mall and had seen him out. I would have loved for someone to have given me a heads up before I got pregnant! I wish someone had the guts to tell me, i think she should send her an email for sure.

    Post # 16
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    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @julies1949:  I think firing her would be ridiculous  – the poor woman was being sexually harassed!

    I would tell. As a wife, I would want to know. I might not believe it, but it would probably be a piece to the big picture and I’d for sure start watching him more closely.

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