I understand how you feel. The idea of marriage is more exciting than the wedding to me, as well. At the year and a half mark, I was ready to be engaged, too. I’m generally in the 2 year camp, but have had to throw this out the window for the sake of staying with the man I love; it’s been 2 1/2 years now. :/ The last year has had a lot of sucky moments. The man’s in his 30s, most of his friends are married and having kids, and he has a good job; what’s he waiting for?!
One thing I did notice was that you said you want a 1 ct diamond ring w/diamond band. Unless there’s a family stone, it’s going to take a while to save up for a ring like that. A good quality stone will be in the thousands. If he’s set on getting you that dream ring, it might delay your engagement a bit more than the 6 months – 1 year. You could get the same look for much less with an option like moissanite (with Mira/Amora now, you can get a beautiful, clear, 1 carat stone for only hundreds), or go for a smaller diamond if you don’t want to worry about this.
While a year and a half is a good point to know when you want to spend your life with someone, it’s not that long in the scheme of things. It seems like the love and commitment are there, but the time isn’t right yet. That’s great – at least he’s on board and wants to marry you.
I don’t know if he’s said this, but there’s going to be tremendous pressure on him to provide for you. While waiting’s tough for you, he knows that he’s going to be the one bringing home the bacon. Sometimes we get so caught up in waiting we forget to acknowledge this. One snag I’ve hit in my relationship was that my boyfriend began to grow resentful of the fact that all the financial pressure is on him. It never occurred to me that he’d feel that way until he told me. I’ve spent the last year in school and have chosen a field that doesn’t make much money, so he knows that the bulk of our income will be on him. I only bring this up because with you in school, your boyfriend may be in a similar situation, and being understanding of this can save you problems down the road.
To answer your question on how we’ve dealt with waiting, I’ve dealt with it poorly. Have you read Mr. Bee’s suggestions on waiting? It’s got some good advice. The investing in yourself bit is the biggest gem in it. I wish I’d learned to follow his advice sooner. School is stressful enough, and waiting can make things that much tougher. The timing really doesn’t sound right for you guys right now, so for now just enjoy your relationship. You know the proposal’s coming, just not yet. That already puts you in a better position than lots of other waiting bees. I hope my rambling’s been helpful! lol.
And sorry, didn’t mean to write a novel.